New to the art and was floored by the concept of shit tests, as I realized this is what my ex did all the fucking time. I've got a quick wit and devilish wordsmithing, so I'm having quite a bit of fun with my shit test responses via online sites. Nonetheless, I am having some doubts about shit tests as an absolute concept. Side note: a fuller psychological understanding of why shit tests occur, would probably fix this issue. However, it looks like I will have to come up with my own because all I can find is the evo psych stuff and that women just want to be dominated. I just don't believe the evo psych approach is good or helpful (for reasons that would be to long to elucidate). Women, or I will say in particular most or all western women, may want to be dominated, but that is simply stating a fact or an observation. I am looking for the why, under a more holistic and better put together psychological paradigm.

I digress. Back to the main show. It would appear the popular literature would say everything is a shit test. I don't think this is necessarily true, moreover I can't live my life in shit test paranoia as this article discusses: http://postmasculine.com/shit-test-paranoia (I'm pretty sure I submitted this article and not a 'self post, but hey, shit happens). It appears I will constantly be needing to set the frame (answering the shit test properly), instead of being myself and enjoying whatever female connection I am having.

If what I perceive to be a shit test is not, and lets say is actually a flirt to create a real/direct connection (as opposed to the frame set by shit test responses which are indirect), how do I recognize this? It seems most things women say can be classified as shit tests, because it is easy to challenge the frame you are confident, alpha, whatever...I don't want to give a beta response, yet I don't think being cocky and funny would create the connection required in said situation. Any ideas?