Strategy with Shy Girls

6PoolPwnage · 2012-09-15T18:04:06+00:00

One girl I took on a date wouldn't sit next to me, she wanted to sit across from me. So I said this to her, "Oh, a job interview huh? I better get asked a lot of questions then ;)"

And by damn, it worked.

heatherfly · 2012-09-15T19:19:41+00:00

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AlaskanOKC · 2012-09-15T17:08:04+00:00

I have something with a shy girl coming up soon, have you been able to execute anything that you have learned here? I'm curious to know

jobs33ker · 2012-09-15T18:08:17+00:00

It sounds like they just weren't that into you..

iz_haz_an_idea · 2012-09-15T17:18:41+00:00

Finesse is required here. Rather than just going up strong and confident, that might intimidate them. Just do what you need to do, but in a much more gentle, understanding manner. You can still crack jokes but limit the cheesy lines and implications, i'm assuming they probably won't understand them because of their introverted personalities. It's a tougher game to play IMO than dealing with socially developed women, but it's a good challenge.

And if worse comes to worse, their are plenty more fish to catch.

Edit: TIL Introvert =/= Shy

schwann · 2012-09-15T20:40:02+00:00

Are they Asian? I only ask because you just described like 90% of the girls I met in Asia.

KitsBeach · 2012-09-16T01:04:18+00:00

I feel I might be able to shed some light, being of the female persuasion as I am.

I think shy girls like this take a lot longer to warm up to people. So you may be kino-ing within the first 10 minutes and ending with a k-close as your standard date. But for her that's a little overwhelming in the span of a few hours. She'd prefer to go slower, like some more subtle kino and maybe a sweet kiss at the end.

Any thoughts, gentlemen?

Gfresh404 · 2012-09-15T19:04:40+00:00

Don't pick-up girls online

This_is_skyler · 2012-09-15T19:31:12+00:00

Sorry guys this is my first day on this subreddit, could someone inform me what kino or an IOI is?

ThePhenix · 2012-09-15T17:49:41+00:00

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youaretherevolution · 2012-09-16T02:44:28+00:00

My first reaction as a shy girl was "fuck you."

Seduction is way more complicated than your superficial observation of the situation. We shy girls are not boring. We're introverted and perhaps some of us are hyper-aware (at least I am) of situations and need to gain our bearings before we submit to all of your measures of success.

Did you ever think that maybe YOU are boring and they didn't like YOU?

I had to look up kino ...but I think it would be weird to be very touchy with a date right away. That trust is something you earn - do people forget that? Someone giving me a massage is a whole different level than casually dating (unless I am paying you).

These girls were trying to communicate with you about what they like and what they need and your reaction was that you were going to ignore those cues?! If you're not comfortable with communication and active listening, maybe you should practice that first. Personally, that's what works on me.

Girls aren't a locked safe that you just get full access to just because you typed in the right combination.

blondedre3000 · 2012-09-15T23:45:40+00:00

These girls are gems. Some of them can be very passionate once you get to know them. I had one girl that was completely different on the phone than in person. We had great conversation so I kept at it after the first semi-awkward date. On the second date it was game on and we were fooling around in my car by the end of the night. It took many more dates for her to be truly comfortable around me though (touching in public, etc.). She ended up being an awesome girl and I'm glad I took the time to get to know her.

I think much of it can stem from upbringing. In her case she grew up only around her other sisters and mom, so even after all these years she was still a little uncomfortable around men she didn't know.

2013-01-05T23:04:09+00:00

Let's make sure you didn't have deceiving pictures up on your profile first.

guybrush_3pwood · 2012-09-15T20:25:48+00:00

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Reinheardt · 2012-09-15T23:34:17+00:00

Take care of them

Eskimosam · 2012-09-16T00:00:17+00:00

I really like talking to shy girls. Something that has worked for me is catching them off guard. But with good things. If you're on the date an example can be hard but I've literally asked a shy girl on a date who responded with "really??" out of surprise and confusion.

I'm rambling without helping sorry.

I like to point out they are acting shy and tease a bit but adding the reassurance that there is no need to be shy since it's just me.

tonetonitony · 2012-09-15T23:22:13+00:00

It may be the fact that you met the girls online. One of the most surprising things you'll notice when you start learning game is that you get more shit from the less attractive girls. Hot girls are used to the dating process and approach it tactfully and with a better attitude. Less attractive girls may have self-esteem issues and be more defensive. They may also enjoy the power associated with rejecting someone. I'm generalizing of course.

But David Deangelo is a big fan of online dating. He says it was the beginning of two great relationships for him. If you go that route, you should try to aim for higher quality women and work on screening out the difficult ones.

expletive-deleted · 2012-09-15T18:03:19+00:00

Why would you want to date a fucking ice queen?

lenrique1 · 2012-09-16T01:40:58+00:00

shy girls are wild!!!, you may think yeah she's cute and conservative, but ooh boy, no, honestly you can't beat around the bush! don't use strategies! don't use techniques! be assertive! its easier to do this if you stop jerking off for a week or two, all that sexual build up will make you hornier and want to just pounce on the girl!!! if you want her, fuck her, keep touching, don't ask questions, make statements, you have to tease her, or embaress her, that will make her talk more, either way, keep making her flush, and talk about sex. if you guys are walking, take her by the hand without asking and lead her to the next destination, if her stories are boring, make them exciting, be creative and improve her stories. oh, and also kino, its awkward if you think its awkward. but i would say, introduce yourself and shake her hand, and hold her hand while talking, and just feel up her arm while you critique her style. if they don't want to be touched, do it anyway, just keep doing it even if they say don't, because they will stop defending and let it be as long as you keep teasing them, you have to keep pushing through, shy girls like to be chased and want a MAN!!! a man who doesn't take no for an answer. them pushing you away is just them saying "come on, show me what you got", and yes comfort is a must, and light kino like holding her hands and touching her arm is comfort, if you are good with your body language and BTW, doesn't matter WTF you say, BODY LANGUAGE IS KEY!

Title	Strategy with Shy Girls
Author	guybrush_3pwood
Upvotes	204
Comments	132
Date	September 15, 2012 4:42 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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