Hi all just writing to ask for help. I have had oneitis before but I usually got over it with time, but I have just developed it again recently. For my boss.

I started the job a couple of months ago and became kind of friendly with her just through chatting and that but I noticed in the last week or two I have developed strong feelings that have evolved into oneitis. I have started the obsessive behaviour of constantly thinking about her, trying to chat when I can, timing my lunch with hers, that sort of thing. It is disrupting my work and it is causing severe depression and jealousy. I am fully aware this is an unhealthy mindset and will only lead to more self induced suffering, so if anyone has any tips or advice to help me overcome this phase I would appreciate it.

Some additional info, I recently got out of a long term relationship within the few months I started so it could be a manifestation of feelings related to that. My boss also has a boyfriend so I know it is literally a pointless infatuation. Despite the two, I do genuinely like this woman but this is not the mindset I want for it.

Thanks.