Past and learning the game is messing with my relationship

AwayThrowId · 2016-01-07T17:15:51+00:00

You're not going to like this, so I hope you're sitting down and not driving a car.

she said I need time to think and she's giving me a 5 day break.

WTF? Where does she get the idea that she dictates what you need?! She seems the think she's your mother, she gets to tell you what to think, and she has the authority to give you a "time out." And then make it sound like it's your fault?!

That is not the way an adult acts. Sorry, dude, this girl is poison. The adult way for her to handle it would be for her to talk about the way the relationship appears to her. She could tell you the needs she has that are not getting met, and even suggest some ways you could meet them. It's then up to you to decide how you can best meet them, or not to meet them if you don't want to.

It's up to you to decide the kind of man you want to be. You have "mommy issues," and a good way of dealing with them is with a therapist. Not this girl. This chick has picked up on your mommy issues and is using them to manipulate and take advantage of you. If you give her the chance, she will walk all over you.

She's using the threat of abandonment to control you. When people show you who they really are, trust them. When people give you an ultimatum, they have already lost respect for you.

As sick as it's going to make you feel, walk away from this girl. If you stay with her, you will suffer more and for longer than if you leave now.

Rashka69s · 2016-01-07T16:31:53+00:00

This would be better asked in r/relationships. If you do have baggage from childhood and you want to stay on that cross, you need to let your girlfriend know 5 days isn't sufficient time to "fix" yourself. Are you certain she feels the same way about you? You're able to convey your feelings about her to strangers on the internet, so you're capable of emotion. Maybe she's projecting and giving herself a buffer to figure out if this relationship is what she wants.

AwayThrowId · 2016-01-10T16:11:57+00:00

Day 4. Any update?

Seansz · 2016-01-08T19:18:09+00:00

You may not like what you read.

I did love a girl a lot, my problem was showing too much love and losing myself in the process to the point i didn't saw what she really was and i didn't recognize myself. About you, first why did he dictates terms on you ? For a relationship to work it needs talk, when that disappear the relationship is over, giving you 5 days time that's BS, if she wants this to work, she will sit and talk to you, in that moment, not 5 days later, i got the exact same thing "need time to think", she broke up 4 days later, time without talking it's not gonna fix anything, will just move forward with it's not gonna work thing. One of the hardest pressure upon a man, is the feeling of losing someone you care about, you will do anything to prevent that, well this is wrong in a relationship, look at the time spent with her, write down the good moment, the bad moments, does this worth losing yourself ? No, probably not, man, your not gonna change in 5 days, this takes months, years to go away and a truly caring person by your side, this seems like she is manipulating you, again if she was truly caring, she would have sit and talk to you and find a solution to fix the damn problem, what she choose, is not one of them. I don't like to interfere between two people, but that's what i think about her and you from my experience, it's up to you to find the right answer.

AwayThrowId · 2016-01-09T11:51:48+00:00

Hey, man. Day 3. How they hangin'?

Title	Past and learning the game is messing with my relationship
Author	LeRick11
Upvotes	3
Comments	36
Date	January 7, 2016 3:57 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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