So this is an OLD dating experience with a lesson in patience and persistence that has manifested into a FWB.

I began using hindge about 3 months ago. In that time, I've had approximately 70 matches. Many of these matches fizzle out from either my own lack of genuine interest, the girl trailing off on the conversation, or the girl contributing too little and I get tired of doing all the heavy lifting. Life is too short for wasting time with low energy individuals and there's an abundance of positive attitude women out there after all.

Well, I happened to match with a very cute blonde, blue-eyed Kiwi girl towards the beginning of my hinge tenure and we hit it off with some witty banter and there was some light sexual tension in the conversation as well. I liked her vibe. So naturally after a few days of back and forth banter I casually proposed a meet up which was well recieved except she was traveling out of the country back to her motherland. I inquired when she'd be back.. And she replied: In a month.

Well, normally with this amount of wait time any interest would fade. In fact, it basically did. For a few days past our initial convo, I'd text her some NZ related thing I saw or something amusing to keep the conversation alive but it ultimately trailed off. I went on several other dates and continued living my life.

however one day a few weeks ago, I was randomly inspired to re-engage her by telling her I tried marmite for the first time. This was a lie but I wanted to spark the conversation back up. To my suprise, she responded and found it hilarious. I half expected it to be left on read but that's the probability and statistics of life for you.

So from here I pushed harder for the date knowing her travel excuse was out of the picture and that my window of opportunity was very small. She agreed and the following weekend we met up at a posh wine bar near her place.

The in-person interaction was magnetic as I took the whole interaction with a grain of salt. I told her that just to hear her accent in person was a win for me. I was light and playful during our meet-up and we discussed our lifestyle routines, dating experiences (DHV stories), worklife, etc.

The conversation escalated into more flirty / sexual banter with her telling me her turn ons, one of which was watching guys do pull ups. Well I made it a mission to find a metal bar somewhere that I could enact her fetish. I suggested that we go for a walk since it was beautiful weather that evening and we ventured down the street. We walked under scaffolding and I did some pull-ups and she loved it. I made out with her after that.

Then, We headed to a book store and made fun of book titles, then I suggested we find a park nearby. We sat there for a few hours talking, making out, and eventually she was very very turned on. Suffice to say, the night ended in sex with almost 0 hours of sleep.

We went on a hiking date the next week, more sex. Then a third date the next week.. Repeat scenario. She has all but said she loves me at this point. She's told her parents about me, invited me to hang out with her and her friends, took me to her place of work, essentially we are bf/gf without the label where I told her I'm not in a place to be exclusive with someone yet and we can be FWB for now.

Ultimately, I just wanted to share some inspiration through an extremely paraphrased example of how a simple re-engaging text can manifest into something much bigger. Don't give up on your leads because you just never know what could happen!

TLDR: Re-engaging message after a few months turned into a FWB.