Hope this is appropriate here. I have recently gotten back into the dating world and I’m hoping I can use this experience to learn and get input from seasoned veterans of the sport.

Please excuse the length. I tried to only include what was relevant in hopes to reveal the big picture.

Scene 1: The Beach

I went to the beach last week. Absolutely had no intention to speak with anybody, was just enjoying the weather and barely looked at any women.

Saw a bunch of chicks dancing by a DJ that was playing a set on the beach, then the juices started flowing.

I walked in closer and saw a chick sitting down by herself, so I just sat next to her and continued to enjoy the scenery, not really caring what happens.

She starts talking to me and we hit it off, laugh, flirt, comment on things happening around us. She wants a drink so we take a walk and I buy her one at the beach bar.

We talk more and get to know each other, then walk back near the DJ and dance together. Genuinely had fun. Things wind down and I offer to drive her home because she took the bus. She’s grateful and I do so.

Scene 2: The Evening

I had plans later in the evening but they fell through, so texted her and said I was available if she wanted to hang. She said she was on a weird Tinder date and wanted to book.

So I met her at a bar nearby and we talked more. As we paid our bill I kissed her. We walked to get something to eat and held hands. We ate and talked more. She started crying because of something going on with her friend.

I comforted her outside. We made out. She wanted to take me home but hesitated because of her roommates. She asked if she could go home with me, but I live outside the city and needed to be up in 4 hours to meet a friend.

We got in my car and made out more, a little heavier this time. I could have cancelled on my friend or just let her stay over while I do my shit in the morning, but right now I’m staying with my parents until I can get a condo, so I can’t really bring people home most of the time. In retrospect, I realize I probably could have just booked a room somewhere, but it didn’t cross my mind. (Noob?)

So I took her home, we kissed and said seeya later. I went home feeling a little let down and worthless, but I realized I actually liked this chick and so brushed off sex on the day we met as not so important.

Scene 3: Back to our lives / Drunk-dialed

So we stay in touch a little throughout the week and I make attempts at reuniting. She’s busy or has this or that going on, so I cool it.

She calls me one night at 330AM, drunk, and tells me she just went on a date with a guy “she really really likes” and that she maybe told him too much about herself and she thought it freaked him out.

So she goes into detail about her past and fucked up shit that’s happened to her etc. she’s crying and venting and I’m just listening. She asks me more about myself and we laugh say goodnight, etc. (I asked if she needed company, but she had work in 4 hours)

I text her the next day to ask if she survived the day and if she wants to meet by the lake. She says “I’m so sorry I called you last night. I got more drunk than intended. I need to take a nap though”

Only time we talked since then was a quick hello/short convo (small talk mostly) via text -

End

At this point I feel it is best to leave the ball in her court. I had told her in a previous conversation that if she ever wanted to hang or had free time to just let me know. So I am basically done pursuing at this point. Maybe she’ll call, maybe she won’t.

Regardless, I’m reflecting on it a lot. I caught a lot of feelings. Our time together was awesome, we said we liked each other and she shared some pretty personal things with me, however I don’t feel that my approaches thereafter meet her with the same enthusiasm/interest, so I’m a little confused.

All I can think is that I need to work on having an abundance mindset, which I find difficult because I get sentimental, start to care a lot and want to spend more time with that one person and nobody else. Also, things will probably be easier when I have my own place again.

F.Y.I. This all happened last week.

TL;DR: met a girl, went out, didn’t have sex, tried to meet up again, she calls me while drunk, I put the ball in her court