Practical ways to deal with insecurities?

2Siders · 2015-12-25T15:53:19+00:00

I used to have low confidence and what helped is getting to know people. Especially when you can create meaningful relationships. I don't just mean with girls but rather strong bonds with your friends.

I recently watched a video on what is true happiness, and research shows that meaningful relationships are much more instrumental in one's fulfillment than money and objects. This sounds cheesy I know.

But for a less theoretical, more practical aspect: find like-minded people. For that you need to go out. Your workplace and school are the #1 places in my opinion for that. I used to have a lot of online friends as well, but for some reason that just made me feel like a piece of trash.

I hope this helps OP. I don't really know your position so it's hard to pin down the right strategy exactly :)

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2015-12-25T16:27:19+00:00

To say that you have low confidence and then suggest you're good looking and have value kind of suggests that you're not really insecure - maybe just lacking some positive reinforcement.

There are a few ways to do this:

Ignore the insecurities. If you've said you're going to approach the first girl you see and want to bone - just do it. Ignore everything that says no. This is about having the will power to follow your intellectual and rational mind.

Try to do this with a lot of things. Ultimately, the best expression of this is possibly skydiving. The whole "i'm not going to die but i'm shitting myself" until you just stop thinking, think "fuck it!" and jump.

Build social validation that reinforce your positive traits. Go out with friends who (as the other poster suggests) kind of think positively and are always reinforcing behaviour you want to have. For example, the typical football team might cheer on their friend who is dancing like an idiot in the middle of a room.
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SureImShore · 2015-12-26T02:55:22+00:00

Work on what you're weakest at. I was in a similar place to you a few years ago. Couldn't figure out why I wasn't confident when I had a great job, owned my own place, tall, funny, smart, good looking etc.

The thing I was most insecure about was lack of strength/overall fitness. I was always thin/skinny and I always hated it. Focused on that for several months, and even though I'm far from a gym rat now, the confidence that came from working on my own weakest link carried over into other areas.

Title	Practical ways to deal with insecurities?
Author	davegri
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	December 25, 2015 2:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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