I’ve been noticing a trend with girls I’m matching with on Tinder, or meet in real life. I get their phone number/Snapchat, have really good banter, then I try to schedule a date IRL. I give them a planned location, a couple nights that work for me, and I let them choose.

I keep getting “let me get back to you on that” sort of responses. As I know they’re busy I usually give them an “okay cool, let me know by Friday” sort of response so there’s a deadline and stop texting them. Then what usually happens is that the girl either doesn’t get back to me, or after coming up with a planned date/general time she comes up with a last minute excuse. The first few times this happens with a girl I usually text back “no sweat, just let me know when you’re open.” Or I follow up with them once or twice. We then do this 2-3 more times over the course of a week, each time with them coming up with a last minute excuse.

After “strike 3,” my current solution is to just stop following up and move on. I’m a guy who works out, studies music production and rocket science, puts together great dates, takes self defense classes and (from what friends who are girls of mine tell me) is a 10/10 in terms of looks. So I know I’m a really high quality guy who would give many girls a great time. I really don’t have the time for you to keep making me think you’re actually interested in meeting up with me if you actually aren’t.

The problem is is that I’m noticing this has been a trend with the last 3-4 girls I’ve tried to establish a physical date with: So I think it’s something with my approach. Hence I solicit the brutally honest feedback of Reddit:

How do I transition the girl to meet up in person for a date, or establish that she’s not actually interested in one? Any tips/best practices? Or maybe this isn’t even the right question to be asking given my problem?

Any insights are much appreciated. Thank you very much in advance.