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[–]Kenic_In_MD 16 points17 points18 points 7 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I feel that I'm of no worth to women or girls
The first step here is you need to respect yourself more. Once you start doing that people, girls in particular will start respecting you too. You are also a young guy you have plenty of time to learn and make mistakes so just go for it and try new things. Something will stick for you. Don't forget, as a man your stock goes up the older you get. To a point of course.
[–]divigera 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Us bro my prob is that when I approach they act like I'm a serial killer gonna kill them lol
[–]Kenic_In_MD 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Then that means you're too aggressive, your energy is way up there. I'm the same, tone it back a bit. Read situations and body language better.
[+]divigera -6 points-5 points-4 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I am considered very intelligent in class by teachers and I am an introvert I speak like slowly and calm everytime
[–]sabio17 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You might be book intelligent but maybe not emotionally intelligent. I mean you are only 18. My advice work on becoming emotionally smart.
[–]divigera -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ya bro thanks for the suggestion any idea on how to get emo intelligence
[–]0urlasthope 7 points8 points9 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is English not your first language? If it is your writing is extremely poor
[–]sabio17 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Here's a start but you'll have to deep dive in research. Women tend to gravitate to men that have a strong self purpose and understanding of themselves emotionally.
https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Than-ebook/dp/B000JMKVCG
[–]divigera 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks bud
[–]xxsimplyjosh 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're self-qualifying... Throw that shit out. That's what kills your game and attraction with women lmao.
[–]dailymanup 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The key problem is your statement that you feel you're of no worth to women or girls. This is a mindset which must change if you want to get hot women. This video gives a few tips on starting to change that mindset.
[–]OrzhovPalatine 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Bro women arent going to make it easy for you. They will test you, they have to cause they dont know what sort of guy you are. They need to figure out in a short time what sort of dude you are and if you're lover or friend material quick. If you fail then you're not lover material.
Your first problem is you. You dont believe in yourself and have a self limiting belief. So it messes with your vibe. Women can feel it come off you in your manner, the tone of your voice, etc.
So work on yourself, build up your confidence and get out there
[–]divigera -2 points-1 points0 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes maybe bro but I don't find any confident women who talks to me normally rather than my volleyball coach. Lel
[–]OrzhovPalatine 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude women arent gonna come up to you and talk unless they dont find you attractive or have high interest. Bro go and chat with girls you arent interested in to get use to it. You have some serious approach anxiety. You're already way behind if you cant even chat with the opposite sex.
So go around and make small talk with women. Theres no pressure and you can train your mind that they're just every day people.
[–]_m_rafay 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bro you're literally me! Thanks for asking this question. This will be helpful for me too.
Happens every time bro could anybody help?? In this community?
[–]Suchnamebro 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Treat them like your little sister or like they are bothering and annoying you, stop over thinking it
[–]0urlasthope 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No no no. Just no.
Thanks bro
[–]confidentgirl 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What works for me is that I bring people down. Lol
Everyone is a human doing their best in life. No matter how hot you are you have insecurities and fears. Once you think of everyone struggling and being human it makes it easier to approach.
Good luck OP!
[–]divigera 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks dude
[–]confidentgirl 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm a girl but thanks man.
Honestly, we all shit, eat, sleep. The hottest girls still get scared.
Something that is a universal turn on:
Guys with the "balls" to approach and who know what they want. Go for it and give her a compliment, a genuine and specific one.
Thanks u sista fine now?
French bruh
Sorry
[–]ColombianEngineer 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be yourself, don't give a fuck about what people thinks and if you fail with a girl there is a lot more to try and someone may like who you really are, I recommend you going to the gym or doing activities that get you build confidence
[–]R_n_P 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You need to learn how to use humor
Humor gets people laughing, but it also shows you don't take things too seriously and are also up for a fun time. If someone was serious 99.99% of the time it'll get too tense really quickly.
One takeaway from this, you feel you aren't worthy. So they'll think you're not even worth their time because you don't respect yourself. Change that mindset asap...
All the other advice I would have suggested would mean jack shit if you can't fix that first. Because it's about respecting yourself. Not trying to get others to fulfil your void.
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[–]divigera 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What to do my friend this happens everytime
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[–]divigera 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks will give it a try
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