Whats up guys? I have a bit of a unique situation but I’m happy to be where i am today despite all of whats happened. Im a 25 y/o male .. and from ages 18-24 ( ages 21-24 being the most destructive) I’ve had the time of my life and been with plenty of women thats not the problem really. During the ages 18-24 being in the new york area me and my friends would go out every day of the week. Spending thousands of dollars nightly at the top clubs / clothes / drugs / bottles ...

The bottom line during these years I’ve slept with over 11 women and hooked up with countless amounts.

The problem (then)- development of severe substance abuse issues - uppers mostly. & a development of a severe spending problem I’m talking 750 a day minimum when i was going out ... Neiman Marcus brand nee outfit before getting bottle service .... this was all 7 days of the week.

  • the problem (now)- I’m currently 8 months sober out of rehab payed off most of my debt. But i gained 70 pounds when getting off drugs .. ( coping with food)

Since June I’m down 30 lbs and not uncomfortable with my body weight or anything but i need to lose at least another 30. & the problem i have is all the ways i used to meet girls conflict with my goals- losing weight ... staying sober ... paying off debt and getting my credit score back within a good range so im not fucked in a few years. - these venues don’t exist or I’m not used to it.

Huge dry spell going on with 6 months without hooking up with a girl. And over a year not getting laid - any pointers that dont conflict with my goals?

I think its extremely possible im content because im just happy with all my goals falling in line and not worrying about girls... ( this cant last forever though)

Suggestions are appreciated... thanks!