So acording to Models you should be touching early and often to create sexual tension and sow that you are ok with touch, the thing is in another part of the book it mentions how women will not follow their sexual urges unless they feel safe with the guy. So touch by itself isn't enough apparently.

It also mentions how you should be vulnerable and willing to express yourself in order for her to feel safe. Is that always possible to do quickly in an interaction? Doesnt it take some people more time to open up to you than others?

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My experience with touch and vulnerbaility has shown me that it is quite random

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It seems like vulnerability doesnt really matter all that much to get her attracted, you should just be carefull not to overshare and let her talk too. But it does make some interactions more fun.

Touching and escalating early doesnt seem to have the effect of being seen as a guy who knows what he wants and at ease with expressing his sexuality but as a desperate and thirsty guy. Being unafraid to touch seems only useful if she is already atracted to you and she wants tmore but turning her from neutral to positive like the book mentions doesnt seem to work.

Another thing is what if we are talking about social circle game? Make moves on manywomen there and you are gonna get a ''reputation''. So in these situation you have to wait but for how long?

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All in all it feels like the proper way to do it is: Flirt with women and only implement shoulder touches --> see which women want are excited to talk to you after a person-depended amount of time-->ask them out, escalate etc.

Am I misunderstanding something? Should I change something in my approach?