Question need an opinion or advice

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-09-15T03:13:20+00:00

Sounds like u are a girl and he may be bored. If this is Al ong term relationship it’s actually pretty common.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-09-15T03:53:11+00:00

This is something you'll need to ask your boyfriend about. I'm assuming boyfriend, you didn't really say what your relationship is.

Is there anything holding you to him? Do you have kids or live together? If not, you might want to consider whether or not a relationship with someone who is selfish in bed and doesn't match your sex drive is worth having around. Or consider opening up the relationship.

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-09-20T15:14:16+00:00

What you are describing is not a sex problem, it is a respect problem. A healthy sexual dynamic is about polarity, desire, and reciprocity. If you are always bending when he wants it but he ignores you when you want it, that is not polarity, that is imbalance. Sex should not feel like a one way street. When a man does not acknowledge your desire, he is either taking you for granted or he is completely out of touch with the role he should be playing as a lover.

Foreplay is not optional for most women. It is how her body and mind unlock, how arousal builds, and how she feels wanted. When he skips that, he is not only neglecting your needs but killing his own chances at being unforgettable in bed. A woman who feels worshipped and teased into heat will give back ten times more than the man who just dives in selfishly. Men who understand this create obsession. Men who ignore it create resentment.

Now, can this be fixed? Yes, but only if he is willing to listen. Sit him down outside the bedroom and tell him straight, “When you ignore me, I feel like my desire does not matter. I am happy to give you what you want, but I expect the same in return.” Do not nag, do not beg. Say it with calm conviction. If he values you, he will adjust. If he refuses, you have your answer about where you stand in his priorities.

Bottom line is, sex is not supposed to be charity, it is supposed to be fire. Demand reciprocity, and do not settle for being treated like a side dish when you are the main course. If you want the full blueprint on creating sexual polarity where both of you crave each other, check my profile and grab my book.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-09-15T02:56:17+00:00

Are you a girl? Because if so, Tough luck!

You girls have been emotionally unavailable to men, and you think nothing of it. But now that the men are emotionally unavailable to you, you think it’s a big problem? It’s what you’ve done to us!

Title	Question need an opinion or advice
Author	No-Study-663
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	September 15, 2025 1:12 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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