Good morning!

I've commented here and there on this sub, but this is my first post.

After reading so many theories , tips & even rants on here I'd like to add a simple reality check that helps me and can definitely help you.

TLDR: 1. if they like you then you have zero to fear. 2. Let your freak flag fly. 3. Let them know your intentions

  1. If they're into you then you can remove all doubt and anxiety because they're into you.

What i mean is if she's into you then when you ask her to meet up, or approach her in the bar or street , etc, then you should have no qualms about talking with her. Cause she's into you. Yea, I understand part of this sub is HOW to get someone into you or out of the friend zone etc, but that's more specific. Overall, if she's into you then there should be no hesitation cause it'll work out. If she's not then now you know and you can still be confident cause, let's be honest, a lot of these conversations on here are about regret of not approaching. So dismiss your fears and know that it'll work out if she's into you. Ultimately, it's YOU assuming she couldn't be into you and your energy will make that a reality.

  1. I get the first point seems too easy and maybe vague so here's a stronger tip I used in a previous comment. Live your interests out loud, odd or awkward as you may believe they are. I know a young woman who looks like every hot IG model you've ever dreamed about who loves anime. I mean total geek about it. She's latina, a bit hood, maybe even a bit stand off ish cause of her attitude, but in reality is sweet and a total nerd. She'd love a guy who's into Anime and talks with her about it cause they're a fan and not a ploy to get laid. THIS is how you meet women! I'm seeing a model who models on the Playboy site cause we discussed books we recently read at a party i was at. Turns out she has her own book club! That night we talked, hung out and made out. I'm seeing her this week. I didn't need the gym, fancy clothes etc, but just openly spoke on my interests which happened to be hers as well. Yea, I dress well, smell nice and I'm in ok shape, but even if I was Thor in Gucci loafers, she would have been bored with me negging her and running game like the other 10 guys at the party were doing. So let your freak flag fly and be proud of being you.

  2. Let your intentions be known early on. Yea. It's scary. You'll get shot down. But not always. Plus, a no today can be a yes tomorrow. I met a girl , a client at my job, who I became friends with. We went for drinks, we text, we.exchanged voice notes, walked around the city etc. One day I told her I felt we had a vibe and I'm into her. She said "I was afraid you'd say that. Just feel like friends is better for us" Ouch! Ghosted her for a week and then felt stupid about it so I met up with her and said "I enjoy hanging with you, what i said I said and it's all good" she smiled and was happy to continue. My confidence must have done something cause about 2 weeks later we were in an UBER making out. In reality, letting her know how I felt removed any potential of "he's ok with just friends".....NEWSFLASH women would like a guy she can fool around with that she's comfortable with too!

So......make your intentions clear. In the end, you're not carrying that dread of "what if i had....etc"

Thanks to those that read all this lol