Wanting the girl is rarely a big enough motivation for me to make a move on her. There's often a voice in my head that is an expert at rationalising reasons for not hitting on a girl.

As a result, what I fear most is something like the following... justifying not hitting on a girl for whatever reason, and then shortly later witnessing someone (who seems lower status than me) get with a girl. Another equivalent would be getting a compliment from a friend implying I've more of an advantage with women than he does. So anything that reminds me of how I'm superior shortly after having chickened out on hitting on a girl really makes me feel strong emotions.

The thing about this as a motivator is that when I do encounter a girl I fancy and genuinely realise that there's no point hitting on her - or that it might actually be best not to - I'll hit on her anyway because I just have too many memories of wasted opportunities and feeling strong regret afterwards. The problem simply is that I don't trust myself enough in the moment that I'm deciding not to hit on her because of cowardice.

Anyone else feel the same?