In a club this girl passed by me, and waited behind me for about 3 minutes for me to finish chatting. When I turned around, she smiled so I moved over. I said “you’re obviously very attracted to me”. She said I was gorgeous, and we were all over each other for about 10 minutes. But when I suggested we go home together, shortly after that she disappeared.

I need advice for the situations. I suppose she used me! On the other hand though, it's not like I'm so good with women that I can turn this sort of thing down? Do you have to turn down kissing sometimes? That'd be confusing to me because I’ve been in situations where it's the kissing has escalated into sex.

On hindsight, I was thinking what if (before we'd kissed), if I had made excuses not to go with her in order to make her want me more! What if I’d said “I’m too old for you”! Think about that from the other perspective! (If I had an attractive older woman (that I was attracted to) tell me she couldn’t sleep with me for MY sake, that’d drive me mad!) Or what if I’d pretended I'd a girlfriend in the venue, and that it wouldn't be fair on her to things in that place!

Usually, girls in these situations don't even want to know my name. I suppose they just want to get a taste of what it would be like without feeling like a slut! In this case maybe she’d preferably rather not sleep with me, but that if having sex meant the only way she could have me, that she’s go for it then?! Surely there can't be anything wrong with kissing in club? The last time I brought a girl home, we had made out in the venue.

I do remember someone once saying not to "release sexual tension in a place you can’t escalate". But I'm not sure if that means that you should always try to at least move her before kissing her, even if it's only to move her somewhere inside the same venue? Anyway, I guess I didn't want to take the gamble of turning her down.