Ladies, I know you are frustrated with bad dates. So are a lot of men. A lot of my female friends and male friends are complaining about bad dates, especially tinder dates. After taking to a lot of friends with the same issue I decided to write about it. This post is specifically for how ladies can also cooperate to make a date "win-win'.

  1. Ladies please as soon as you figure out some red flag from a guy or you feel like you will not date him, end the date as soon as possible. Don't waste your own time and the other person's time when you already know you will not like to see him again. Just end the date. Beauty does strange things to the male brain. Male usually cannot decide whether its a good match or not, especially when he finds the girl attractive. But as its not a one-sided relationship ladies as soon as you feel you are not into him just end the date and don't try to be nice by prolonging the date to make the person feel good. If you prolong the date his expectations will arise. Most importantly you are wasting your own time. Please don't do that. if needed send a msg after the end of the date that you are not compatible,
  2. When you are approached and you give him your number but if you are not interested in going out with him, tell him. Don't try to be nice by sending "I am busy this week maybe later" this kind of stuff. By mentioning you are not interested you are saving your time and effort and also you are helping that guy to find someone else as soon as possible. Giving false hope wastes both parties' time or even not replying lowers the other person's self-esteem (which he does not deserve). But sending a clear message is doing a favor for both you and the guy. As you have already given him your number, take it as a responsibility to tell him "I am not interested in dating RN". Not replying and just postponing the date is just wasting time and hurting the other person's self-esteem.
  3. Ladies if you are looking for long term relationship and your tinder date or the guy on the first date is signaling you that he is into ONS just mention your intention and end the date asap, again. If needed mention it. And if you are looking for short term hook up and you see the guy is looking for long term relationship just mention "I am looking for a relationship at some point in time but not now. I am just having fun RN and meeting new people and knowing new stuff". It's a clear message the guy would understand you are not compatible.

My final words would be let's make dating more fun and enjoyable for both parties. Let's get out of the mindset of "I have to win", instead let's make it a win-win situation. There are a lot of guys and girls out there to find out good compatibility. But trying to be nice and giving false home actually damages both but wasting time and questioning self-esteem.

Peace.