I suck at texting people and on dating apps. While most of my recent success over the past couple of years is from dating apps I still feel like I suck at texting etc. I genunly hate it and get way too in my head over little shit. I feel like I can't be myself that way unless I've known the person or they're a friend. I wanted to upload some screenshots but can't, so I am posting below a couple of text exchanges from Hinge. Like the title says: rock my shit. I want to meet more people, especailly girls I find really attractive all around. (I struggle most when it feels like there's something on the line or if I match with a girl I find really cute etc.) Typing this out i feel like I come off as too friendly or non flirtatious which does not come that naturally to me with most strangers. Any advice is super appreciated.

Girl 1: Her: Benny ben ben benn bee ben Me: keep it coming you've got a flow with it Me: Not sure if you were casting a spell or just flirting- either way it's working

her: omg hey I was in PA for a few days now home I'm back in state now ben ben benny ben ben

me:full circle shelby belby I wanna hear your take sometime on what life in city is like

her: city is horrible i hate it it's cheap living, littered everywhere.. (etc more descriptions from her) I wouldn't be mad if an asteroid hit city specifically

me:hahaha you sound so stoked you don't give off city vibes at all but you have the beautiful naval yard maybe we should get you out of city sometime I'm not a huge texter but you look like you could be fun-- should we test that over a coffee?

Girl 2:

Her: great pic! And I also love snappy paintings. me: haha thanks I also dig your surfing pic do you teach art by chance? her: Yes I do! And I also make it (we exchanged several messages about art and leaving NYC to live elsewhere. She genunly seems cool and we loosly agreed to make plans to get together when I got back to the area from NYC).

Me getting back to the area: Hey Annie! I'm making my return to __ and staying for a week me: if you're around we should hangout! me: -am also moving back in june-

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I am so sick of this shit and have plenty of other convorsations like these I can type out but would rather not tonight. thanks for reading and any advice you may have. (and yes I occasionally do "day game")