Second Date, More Nervous then First Date.

Hot_Lead_7335 · 2025-08-17T21:12:32+00:00

Rough usually when girls say theyre on their period it means they don't want to have sex if they are or not. These dates can be tough because you don't really know what they're thinking and such. Honestly I'd just go in it aloof and if she seems les interested just end it early. Or be bold and call her out, you already had sex with her so there's not much to lose.

Usually dates are supposed to build momentum but it sounds like it peaked at date 1 which can happen.

catchthecum · 2025-08-18T00:51:08+00:00

Sounds like she’s pulling back because she is feeling a bit slutty after first date sex. Not because she likes you less. Sex is very complicated for women emotionally.

Go in not focused on sex and more on just having fun and getting to know her more. You will probably sleep with her again on the date if you play it right.

To the period comment I would reply smth like “That doesn’t bother me at all i think you’re super sexy either way but i’m also just happy hanging out and enjoying each others company :)”

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-17T21:33:20+00:00

You still haven't learn that your mindset should be that you are the prize, the gatekeeper of a potential relationship that she has to earn, and that your job is not to do thigns well to impress them, but to evaluate whether she deserves not just to have a relationship wiht you, but to see if she even deserves a 3rd date.

That's why you are nervous, because instead of acting like a man who knows his worth and who screens and vets women properly before giving the privielge of dating someone as good as him, you are acting like you are not good enough, like she is better than you and that you'd be extermely lucky that she gives you an extra minute of her time.

The person who is nervous is the one who has more to lose, are you the one who has more to lose?

Because if that's what you believe then the problem is not your "performance" in a second date or third or anything, it's the fact that you are being dishonest with this girl. Cuz deep down you believe she deserves a man that's better than you, and yet you are trying to trick her into choosing you instead. In other words you are trying to scam her.

It's like you are thinking: “I’m not good enough and if she realizes it, I’ll lose her.” If you show up to a date thinking she’s above you, you’re subconsciously trying to sell a product you don’t believe in yourself. Of course you’ll be anxious, scammers are always nervous about being caught.

So instead of asking:

“How do I avoid messing up the second or third date?”

The real question is:

“Does this woman deserve the privilege of a second or third date with me?”

If you truly internalize that, your nervousness doesn’t just go down, it transforms into curiosity and fun, because now u are the one evaluating, not auditioning.

And if you don't start evaluating, then sorry but women will reject you anyways because they can feel when a guy doesn't truly believe he is good enough for someone like them.

He starts trying to ge tapproval, trying to play it safe, starts filtering himself, bends his opinions and hides how he feels in order to avoid upsetting her, if he wants sex he walks on eggsheels out of fear she will get mad.

You begin to act like a fake politically correct politician who is prioritizing getting votes by telling people what he thinks they want to hear, than on being real and authentic and saying what he truly believes in no matter if people hate him for it.

Women respect men who are real and they hate dishonest manipulative guys who try to scam them. And womeen can not feel attracted to you if she doesnt respect you.

The only reason this girl will get turned off with you is because deep down you would reject yourself if you were in her shoes and women might not be able to articulate exactly that needy insecure vibe you project, but they can feel it from a mile away.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-08-18T08:36:59+00:00

The pitch is flooded game postponed.

Ok_Recognition_271 · 2025-08-18T08:41:27+00:00

have u ever got a date without investing money on this app

Title	Second Date, More Nervous then First Date.
Author	N0s0up4u57
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	August 17, 2025 9:07 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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