Seduction when you (might) have ADHD

okabekudo · 2020-10-31T00:26:28+00:00

If you have ADHD get medicated so you can work on your goals that's the utmost important thing. Fidgeting is okay it's pretty normal nowadays. You can show that you're confident in other ways. Suppressing emotions is a very good thing keep doing that I fail all the time even medicated I still get anger outbursts because of rejection sensitive dysphoria (not at the girls but at everything else lol). If you're suppressing your emotions you actually show that you know how to behave socially.

Surfingchickenph · 2020-11-05T02:28:22+00:00

Hello! 22 M with ADHD and some experience with women throwing in my two cents.

My ADHD has actually helped me immensely in multiple different scenarios with women. When I’m out at the bars and I don’t know a lot of people, I just start talking to the closest person to me. I find something we’re both interested in (for instance on Halloween I met a ton of people because I was dressed like a crewmate from Among Us and then just said shit like “ahhhh black sus” “I saw blue vent” “nah I was in nav” it sounds cringe but it works) make them laugh, and then I move on to the next people. Having no attention span also helps me keep stuff interesting and light hearted. I was talking to this one girl about music and she had her leg on top of mine and I just started talking about Harry Potter and LOTR and she was super into and excited because I was excited too. I was cutting people off, fidgeting because I had to say something and then talking fast and loud. And I still got her number.

ADHD can seem like a handicap in situations, but you have to make it your strength. Just go out and have fun and people will respond to your good energy. If you go out nervous and rubbing your hands then people won’t respond well. I get it if this isn’t easy, everyone has it differently. But turning it into my strength allowed me to be proud of who I am. Maybe try it out sometime, see how people respond.

Compromisedsoups · 2020-10-30T22:10:29+00:00

I’ve got strong ADD as well. I’ve found what helps is to just focus on the moment. Usually when I get over stimulated I turn into a rush of talking and being loud, sometimes I’m just being myself and it is what it is. Other times I realize I need to just relax and focus on the other person. I’m never collected, but I can be calm if I just know everything is going to be alright, even when I’m excited.

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-10-30T22:28:44+00:00

I've read that ADHD may be in part an adaptive trait for seduction. Women don't want a boring guy, they want a energetic in the moment guy. The thing I would focus on is being able to suppress it for short spans of time since everything needs a rhythm and you need chill parts of the night as well, but I'd rather have to work on that and have the other part come naturally since when you're first trying to be energetic there's way more chance for cringe.

Title	Seduction when you (might) have ADHD
Author	Philipparty
Upvotes	4
Comments	4
Date	October 30, 2020 7:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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