Seduction with a Studder

Brannus · 2012-12-11T21:26:18+00:00

I completely understand where you are coming from. I had a pretty bad stutter when I was in middle school through my freshman year in high school. My problem was I would talked so fast, and thought so fast, that my mouth could not process what I wanted to say. I also had a problem with saying S's and R's, however, I think this was mostly due to the amount of dental work I had done on my mouth from middle school through high school. However, I barely stutter anymore. Now this is a little background about me so you don't think I'm just talking out of my ass.

My suggestion is to keep going to your group, or even find yourself a speech pathologist (I believe this is the correct term). I would also suggest to you to try and slow down your thinking. For me, when I would want to say 'I saw a dog playing with a red ball', I would say saw but my brain was already on like dog or even playing. So by actually being painfully aware of that problem, I would try to slow down my thinking to the word I was trying to say as I was saying it. This helped me, so don't this as the "one" solution for you.

My final two cents, on the assumption that this stuttering will never go away, is to own it. Much like in the movie, 'She is Out of my League", Stainer just took the name for his own and then no one else could really make fun of him because of it. You acknowledge it about yourself and you can actually joke about it. Being confident also is being able to say you have weaknesses, but not allowing them to keep you down.

Here are some links I found real quick by Goggling stuttering. I've not checked to see if any of this is actually helpful, but I assume most of it is credible since they are mostly .edus and .orgs. Hopefully by doing some research through these links you can get some helpful hints, tips, and strategies to help with trying to reduce your stuttering habit.

I hope this helps you with this. Best of luck to you though.

http://www.stutteringhelp.org/facts

http://www.stutteringhelp.org/content/if-you-stutter-advice-adults-1

http://www.latrobe.edu.au/istutter/?q=node/27

http://www.stutteringhelp.org/faqs-about-stuttering

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Stuttering (I would take this site with a grain of salt, personally.)

http://stutteringselfhelp-stutteringselfhelp.blogspot.com/

fatless · 2012-12-11T21:35:46+00:00

Most people believe that the thing they're most insecure about is the most noticeable thing to strangers, particularly to ones they've just met, but this mentality only serves to highlight your insecurity. If you act like it doesn't bother you, then it won't likely bother someone you just met. Smile and shrug it off if you get stuck in a stutter, laugh if you can and keep plowing on.

By the way, did you see the FR by the guy with one leg? Find inspiration in his story.

pickup_sticks · 2012-12-11T21:49:43+00:00

I don't have any specific advice, but I knew a dude years ago who had Tourette's syndrome and nonetheless was a great car salesman. In the middle of telling you how great the car was he would shout out "fuck you!" and "I love you!"

He was based in Loves Park, Illinois, and his business card said "The Barker in the Park." Fearless.

2012-12-12T02:19:26+00:00

A scummy punk rocker dude with a stutter who spit saliva everywhere when he talked dated one of the hottest girls in school for years in my High School...

NYCman11229 · 2012-12-12T04:01:12+00:00

I have a bit of a stutter, but sometimes. It's weird. Most of the stutter is saying my name. What helped me out with that a bit was just to say it slowly. And I go through periods where I have really bad stutter, so much so that I try to avoid people and conversations. And sometimes it just ends and I'm back to normal. I could get stuck on a certain word here and there, but most of the time I sound like any other middle-class, college-educated, northeastern NY student.

I can't help you with your stutter. But it sounds like approach or social anxiety and it's taking the form of a stutter. So just go out there, and I think the more you approach the less of a stutter will have.

sk8grunt · 2012-12-12T04:39:47+00:00

I have stuttered now for over 20 years. I am not 30 and every single woman who's pants I have had on my floor. The two hands that took off said pants had to thank my stutter everytime. Girls find it cute and that stutter tells the female mind "He is nervous and stuttering he must really like me". If it doesn't she is worthless and horrible in bed so walk away. If your stutter loses her consider it a win and be thankful that drama filled selfish tramp can't drag her shit show into your life.

Now after many years of trying, failing, and succeding. I have an amazing gorgeous intelligent woman 32DD-28-34. So don't let the stutter get you down bro. Harness that shit and rock it like a man.

Fapatron4000 · 2012-12-12T23:06:37+00:00

What's helped me is not thinking TOO MUCH / at all about what you're going to say. Slow yourself down, and let the dialogue be spontaneous - have more trust in yourself and your brain, as a result thing's have become more natural and less stuttery. Basically get out of your head :)

CosmicJokes · 2012-12-13T11:19:45+00:00

Don´t focus too much on it. That said, yes a stutter is noticeable. So what? Make the best out of everything else you´ve got.

Game wise, I think that just to make you more comfortable, clubs would be a good way to meet women. It´s loud in there anyway, so it won´t be too noticeable. Otherwise, try getting to know girls a bit more. They won´t care after they find out how much of an awesome person you are.

My cousin has a pretty bad stutter and he just married an absolutely beautiful girl.

Title	Seduction with a Studder
Author	ForTheWolf23
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	December 11, 2012 8:59 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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