Self sabotage

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-08-26T00:11:59+00:00

enjoy making them feel pain for some reason

Well then you’re not gonna be able to find a (healthy) relationship, let alone a girl. Even if you finally get a gf, that enjoyment over making her feel pain or sad will still be there. So there’s a big chance you will end up hurting her on purpose for your enjoyment, either emotionally or worse physically.

Find that “for some reason” you mentioned in your post. There’s gotta be a root cause for that. Not just popping out of nowhere. Maybe your past (you’ve been hurt by a loved one) or your family background (maybe you see your dad abusing your mom and subconsciously you see that as a norm), etc. Bottom line: Seek professional help.

unmistakableregret · 2025-08-25T23:53:45+00:00

Therapy

koraloy · 2025-08-26T05:33:54+00:00

therapy asap. dont even get close to a woman rn

Secure-Outcome8687 · 2025-08-26T06:20:32+00:00

You don't sound like you have a clean bill of mental health. Those that do don't act this way. It seems like you don't feel as if you have power over your own life and that you alleviate this pain by reaching for unhealthy power over others. That isn't your fault and isn't something you should feel shame over. I strongly suspect circumstance has shaped you, especially your childhood. So beating yourself up over it too much isn't gonna help.

In the same breath, it's on you, for the most part, to learn how to be better. You've admitted you have a problem and seem prepared to work on it. That's a good start. Seek therapy and other support networks (close friends and family). Ensure your sleep, diet, exercise and social life are in order. In the meantime, don't date any women at all. You can re-enter the dating scene when you show improvement. Good luck!

As for some others in this thread - yeah, I totally get why you'd be disappointed in OP. Do you think lining up to sink the boots in is gonna help?

Caesar1249 · 2025-08-26T19:12:14+00:00

Yeah i been talking with some ppl i trusted and its the same behaviour someone in my lige has done to towhrs in my life and i have realized where i cale from, i sended an apology mag to the girls i got the number from. ill see a theraphy asap.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-26T00:09:08+00:00

Get help dude, you are an absolutely terrible person. Work on that.

BackgroundWelder8482 · 2025-08-26T01:17:08+00:00

The fuck is wrong with you guy?

Caesar1249 · 2025-08-25T22:05:22+00:00

7 different girls in a month btw

Title	Self sabotage
Author	Caesar1249
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	August 25, 2025 10:04 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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