This maybe a better topic to talk about in a self improvement sub but fuck it I’m always in here. I’m 23 and have never been with anybody. Nothing intimate. And I know it’s not the biggest deal but my way of going about it has been shit. I still stalk the girl who I got the closest to smashing(smoking with her in her car) and that was like over a year ago. Long story short I lied about smoking which was pretty fucking stupid and we fizzled out bc of that. But beyond that my confidence is mad low and idk how to pull myself back up from it. Im working on being a more interesting person by immersing myself in my hobbies and interests but where I’m really struggling is my self love. I always feel like no matter how hard I work on myself my best self will never be enough, and makes me feel like “why even try”and catching feelings way too easily, and getting mad jealous and insecure when a girl I’m into is inevitably talking to other guys. Like I’m not even dating them and even being aware of that I still hurt myself. Man typing that felt stupid and I know it is but why do I keep falling for it? On top of that one thing I’ve realized is my whole life I’ve been a people pleaser and have never felt truly like myself and I’m doing that now by immersing myself in things that interest me, being a people pleaser is still a lifelong issue I’m tryna stop. One last thing that’s been bothering me is remembering past shit from high school and my youth and fear of running into people from my past(I live about an hour and a half from where I went to high school) and them stealing girls I try getting with. It’s such an irrational fear but man I can’t get out of my own head. There might be more im missing but idk man. I don’t necessarily want to “get over it” because that doesn’t happen instantaneously, but I know I need help changing my attitude and mindset if I’m gonna be successful with women and life in general.