I want to thank you all for everything you've helped me with. Now, I have to reciprocate; as should everyone else. I'm not that great at day game, pretty average I'd say. I'm not that great at night game either. "Well, damn, Happy flaps. What's left?" Dance game. I don't mean to sound cocky, but I am really, really, good at dancing. Reddit, I bestow upon you my dance game. It's a lot like escalating Kino-- you don't want to do too much unless you've built up to it. You're welcome.

There's a FR that goes with the discovery of this dancing stuff but that's for another time. The TL;DR of it is: went to concert, friends ditched, danced with 6-7 girls, ditched friends and took party bus to another city, went to 3-4 parties, ended the night with a girl at my house. BOOM.

The first part is attitude. You have to have very legitimate confidence, and a good flow. Your confidence should be on this level: I can have any girl I want / I can whoop any dude in here if it came to it / I can even steal any dude's girl if I wanted to. I like to think that I'm too nice to do the latter two, I'd rather make friends than be a gigantic dick hole, but it helps in having an alpha attitude to believe this. My main attitude is one of confidence, good will, no expectations, and entertaining myself (/w just the right amount of offensiveness.) If you need more on attitude, read the side bar-- good stuff.

Here's my ladder of escalation (intended for venues where you grind.)

  1. walk up next to them completely uninterested, talking just because you like to talk to people-- shoulder to shoulder. Be playful/teasing. More importantly, be nonthreatening-- a really nice guy, BUT (can't stress this enough) overconfident --not a dick, just ridiculously sure of your self.)It hasn't crossed your mind that you might dance with them. You haven't begun to consider them as potential lady meat. You just like talking to people. If they don't respond, they're probably not a lot of fun. So whatevs, you're only goal is to have fun.

  2. If you guys have had a good conversation, if you laughed, ask to dance.

  3. Grab them by the hips. None of that pussy shit, like a man, damn it. There should be little talking; it's business time. Talk just enough to keep things lighthearted and nonthreatening. Hooking up hasn't crossed your mind, you're just getting to know a fellow human being-- getting lost in that Dionysian ecstasy and the primal unity that is dancing.

  4. after awhile of dancing, caress your fingers up and down their side lightly

  5. move to their arms-- run your fingernails up and down

  6. get to the hands, cross her arms around her waist and hold her hands, putting your head next to hers

  7. give her a twirl, look her in the eyes-- she's beautiful, show her off and tell her. Take her in a traditional manner, one arm around her, one arm holding her hand, don't break eye contact, get close. Don't kiss her, either. She'll want you to. That's not what this is about. What are you, a pervert? (lawlz)

  8. spin her around again back to grind mode, continue this stuff and apologize for being handsy, to which they'll respond "you're fine" "not enough" etc… flirty conversation throughout all of this.

-another move you can use at your discretion is messaging her shoulders/back while dancing

-If you want to see some extra effort on her part, act disinterested/lazy about the thing once she's engaged in you, look around the room.

-I also find it funny to do role reversal, if she's flirting with you, comment how you're not just a piece of meat and how women can be such pigs.

LEVEL 2! FIGHT! -level 2 is the dirty shit. Clearly things are sexual, she worked you into that mood. It's up to you to decide when this is happening. -claw up and down her legs, pull her hair, feel her up, maybe kiss her-- but not encouraged -Voila. She's down if you get to this point. God speed.

Extra random tip from today- flirt with your haircutter, you'll get a better haircut (even got a shave, message, and number out of it ;)

edit: formatting on this site is crazy