Should I be asking questions?

SwissPUA · 2012-12-24T22:38:47+00:00

You are right, there's a lot of amiguity about this in PUA. It's about being an OPEN PERSON (= focus on comfort) vs being a MYSTERIOUS PERSON (= focus on attraction).

Experiment and do whatever works best for you.

For myself, I have found that being an OPEN PERSON works best. Of course I use PUSH & PULL all the time to take care of the missing attraction. Sometimes my PUSH & PULL is one-way (physical + stimulation | physical - stimulation) or two-way ( physical - stimulation & verbal + stimulation | physical + stimulation & verbal - stimulation) I think it's the best way to create attraction & comfort, some of the two most important things for a successful seduction.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-12-24T23:50:56+00:00

There is one theory that you should talk to new women like you would talk to your close friends. She will sense you are treating her like she is part of your circle. You don't ask a lot of questions of your friends, because you already know their opinions, tastes, ideals, etc. So you use simple declarative statements instead of questions. Like for example here are two versions of the adventurousness "qualifier."

"Hey, are you adventurous? Most people say they're adventurous but very few really are."

Now here is the non-question, declarative version.

"You look like the adventurous type. Most people say they're adventurous but very few really are."

Both of those statements are baiting the woman to qualify herself by telling you how adventurous she is. Note that you can do this without a question. Using this format really depends on context.

But I wouldn't worry about this so much. Just avoid the "job interview" questions. You can just draw her out with positive, declarative statements that tease a bit, just off the top of my head, "I bet you have an exciting job, like lion taming."

Cerberus_Alfa · 2012-12-24T22:17:20+00:00

You can't ask dull and boring questions you have to use those in playful and teasing way. Obviously statemens are better , beacuse they are forcing stronger response but i guess that you should not care too much about questions versus some PUA lines. As long as both of you are intersted in talking to each it would not be harmuful to use questions.

HorseLifer · 2012-12-24T23:19:12+00:00

Ask questions but don't turn it into a dull and boring interview. Make it fun, that's pretty much the only rule

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-25T03:03:44+00:00

A laundry list of questions (interview-style) is definitely bad. A few here and there are just part of polite conversation. You can also flip questions into commands: "Tell me a story."

2012-12-25T03:56:07+00:00

Always ask questions, pick their brain. But don't be so damn serious about it, have fun. And if you don't ever fully understand something they tell you, don't be afraid to have them explain it to you.

JihadDerp · 2012-12-25T04:21:42+00:00

Only ask yes or no questions, or other one-word answer questions. Definitely gonna get some ass that way.

No but seriously questions are great, as long as they're open ended. Better yet, any open ended question can be reworded as an imperative. Instead of saying, "What's the most interesting thing that happened to you when you went to Bolivia?" You can say, "Tell me the craziest thing that happened while you were in Bolivia."

heykittenwhatyadoing · 2012-12-25T08:08:01+00:00

Hi,I'm a women who loves women.i have 3 girlfriends and counting lol babe all you gotta do is look around..observe her..the backround..ask her where victoria secret is..whatever..just talk to people thats all it is baby.Follow that good feeling s you get when u talk to a beautiful person..not only beautiful women,i ..if you talk and ask even a beautiful manit shows how comfortable you are and raising your awesome-ade.

heykittenwhatyadoing · 2012-12-25T14:39:36+00:00

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Title	Should I be asking questions?
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Date	December 24, 2012 9:55 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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