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[–]KingOfMyWorld1 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Get more girls.
[–]sedditforthewin 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Any other answer is a waste of HD space.
[–]puaCurveBall[M] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl
I believe the term "Friendzone" applies to your question, I URGE you to read this post.
This will stay in spam filter, please repost in the AskSeddit subreddit.(Not askREDDIT, but askSEDDIT)
[–]zuperfly1 point 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I think you went too fast. You didn't talk IRL, so how can you say you love her. If I were you I'd cut all contact. You're putting way too much time in this.
About the friendzone, it does not exist. You're just trying too hard and girls notice that.
[–]throwaway_quinn -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Son, you suffer from the heartbreak of oneitis. She is a friend, you're lonely, so you have conjured up all sort of attributes, for her and for your relationship, that simply don't exist.
The world, and especially the Netherlands, is full of cute girls. Get to know, oh, 10 of them. 20. Maybe the one you are talking about really is extra special, but you don't know right now, do you?
[–]donbram[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I do, she is very special. All my friends told me to stop with her she is time wasting, but i don't know she has something, i don't want to lose her..
[–]throwaway_quinn 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don't have to lose her. You aren't dating, so there is no problem with you dating other women. You can even ask her to be your wing-man.
Just don't become (or remain) obsessed with her. It isn't healthy for you and it isn't attractive to her.
[–]Richralph 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Try and get rid of the idea that she is special. Every girl is special to someone, but very few are flat out special to everyone.
I guarentee you if you go meet some others then within no time you will be looking back and realising that whilst a great girl she is not unique and not necessarily the one.
In regards to your original question then to be honest I would walk away. You suggest you have been friend zoned four times? Im not sure what you mean by this, did it turn sexual four times as well (hence entering and leaving the zone)? This does not really make sense to me and I feel you are over analysing it. A friend zone is not a clear cut thing you can leave and enter multiple times. Normally once in it then that is final (although it can change).
Also in regards to her saying she has feelings for you, I am not sure what she is doing here. Maybe she does or maybe she just loves the attention from you. Maybe bad advice but when a girl did this to me I replied simply stating I did not believe her. This forced the girl to react and it quickly became apparent in my situation she did not.
For you this would force her to consider her actions as right now she says one thing and does another. In some ways it doesn't matter if she likes you or not as she clearly is not acting on it and therefore the chances of a relationship are very slim!
For example her saying she does not want a relationship is simply that. Whether she likes you or instead said it that way to make the rejection easier is irrelevant unfortunately :(
[–]Imveryhandsome -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Nooit gedacht een andere Nederlander hier te vinden. Ik denk dat je moet stoppen, gewoon geen berichtjes meer heen en weer sturen, als ze contact met je wilt houden dan komt dat contact van haar. Je bent aan het begin te snel gegaan, als ze geen contact meer wil dan moet je je daarbij neerleggen en hou haar anders gewoon als vriendin. Het belangrijkste is dat als zij contact legt, je niet meer de hele tijd met haar gaat whatsappen maar op school of gewoon IRL praat. Berichtjes gebruik je om af te spreken en pas in een gevorderde relatie om echt te praten.
[–]donbram[S] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey eindelijk iemand waarmee ik kan communiceren, we hebben nog veel contact maar het probleem is als ze zegt dat we liever vrienden blijven antwoord ik een beetje lastig en daar begint onze kleine ruzietje weer, ze zegt alleen dat ze er niet klaar is, maar door deze topic heb ik me zelf even herpakt en ga wel verder als gewoon vrienden, hartelijk bedankt!
[–]Imveryhandsome 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dat lijkt me iig het beste! Misschien later als je elkaar beter kent dat het meer kan zijn:) succes!
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