Should u become the “villain”?

OpinionThink481 · 2025-10-28T14:07:57+00:00

- I’ve had experiences where I pay for drinks dates get nothing in return or been flaked on

That's because you are not supposed to get anything in return for paying for drinks. If you pay drinks it's because you want to out of pure selfless generosity without expecting anything in return, not because you are entering an agreement where she has to give you something as payment for it.

And if you expect to get something for it then you should have been 100% clear by saying:

"Hey im buying you drinks, but only if you give me a kiss or sex (or whatever it is that you hope to get), if you dont want to then say it so ill save my money and not buy you drinks"

But of course you wouldn't say it like this right? Because you know all of them would say no.

So instead you think you are clever by not specifying what you want in return and assume they should just give you something without discussing it...

As if giving something in return for drinks was a rule that they should comply with, and then accuse them of using you when they never promised to give you anything? come on man

aeturnus95 · 2025-10-28T10:44:41+00:00

Don’t be manipulative. Don’t be careless. Not ’dirty’ as a form of revenge.

But definitely step into your dark, restrained and benevolent side. Without guilt or shame. To be capable of harming, but choosing not to. Always consensual. Always intentional. In service of her.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-10-28T11:53:44+00:00

Even if you think you're a villain, women won't see you that way. Just do what the heart tells you. The right woman will value if you're attractive and high value. You don't have to compromise your core to be attractive and seductive.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-28T12:41:39+00:00

Over-correction.

TwilightFate · 2025-10-28T15:05:50+00:00

No. You can't just pretend to be an asshole, it's needy and unattractive as hell.

You're either one or you're not.

Title	Should u become the “villain”?
Author	spazatron-3000
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	October 28, 2025 10:08 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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