I've been single since 2009, that's right. I've been trying (probably not as hard as I should) but no one seems to bite. Most recently I have met two girls, both have stated that they have fancied me for quite some time (i was friends with both of them) but will not let themselves have feelings, for they are committed to other people. One girl I was interested in, not really physically but emotionally but that is a moot point as she is not interested (is on some 'he was the first person i had sex with so i love him!" shtick) the other is just caught in some ridiculous love circle with a terribly charming cheater with oodles of cash.

I'll give an example: It was her birthday, and they were in the "friends" cycle of their terrible sequence. He comes down to where she was at for her birthday (town 7 hours away) and buys her 300 dollars worth of gifts that she wanted. Takes her out to these places blah blah blah. Just as friends. Now she is back with him, awesome.

I really liked her emotionally (we just clicked: like that) and physically (beeeeautiful!). But, if she is going to be stuck with that cheat then maybe she isn't the person for me.

I just don't know where to go or what to do, it seems like this is always happening or it's simply a "no interest". I recently got a new haircut (longish hair is so 2010) and started to workout again (for my own personal fulfillment, but looking better is a bonus) but there doesn't seem to be anywhere to go.

I'm also worried that with all this time of inactivity that I have become "rusty" with my moves of seduction. Are there guides on how to get back up to par, in the event that I even get an opportunity to use them?

tl;dr: Where do I go when I seem to have hit a brick wall with ladies? Build confidence? Strengthen my sexual mastery? Halp.