So can some successful Sedditors share their before and after stories?

TofuTofu · 2012-05-26T20:18:45+00:00

I've been asked to give my full before/after story before and one of these days I'll write up some proper memoirs. But for now...

What was your low point with women before?

My first two real girlfriends both cheated on me to end the relationship because, in retrospect, I was a beta nice guy doormat who made for a pretty boring boyfriend. It left me confused and depressed (at the time).

When did you know you had arrived as a PUA?

It all really clicked for me around the time I went and did my 12 US FRs at the end of 2010/start of 2011. I knew my game was getting very good, but being able to successfully game in multiple cities and countries in a very short-time solidified it for me. Not coincidentally, I really started to see success after I first listened to The Blueprint Decoded by RSD and applied it to my life.

What parts of your life have been affected that you did not expect?

The friendships I've been able to cultivate with sedditors all over the world. It's something I wouldn't trade for anything and want to spread to others.

Jspiral · 2012-05-27T00:32:40+00:00

Let me first say that, although I am very successful with women, I am not a pick up artist. This is where I think this subreddit has gone astray. Do you want to be able to sleep with lots of women or do you simply want to be attractive to them so that you can find the love of your life?

For me, I don't care to sleep with a lot of women. I never had the energy nor the lack of shame to do so. I simply care too much about people to fuck them (literally or figuratively) and forget them. So when I spend time with people, there is no ulterior motive on my part. I am simply enjoying the moment. Granted, it took some maturing on my part to finally arrive here but when I did, I realized this was my niche.

Before, I had no idea how to talk to women. Quite frankly women scared me. I put the pussy up on a pedestal and I was completely intimidated. This fear led me to be dull when chatting up a woman because I was so afraid I would blow it. And this is why a lot of guys think women like assholes. Because assholes lack that fear. They simply do not give a shit and talk to women they same way they'd talk to anyone else. So if you, or anyone else here, think women like assholes....put that shit out of your mind immediately because it's not true at all. It's just that they don't like fearful little boys. They like men with a pair of balls.

All this shit I had to figure out on my own. I didn't have the help that you have here with this subreddit (even though I think this subreddit is a nightmare). I would go to clubs with my friends that were good at picking up women and watch them. I'd listen to what they'd say and watch how the ladies would react. And let me tell you, they would say some stupid shit and it never turned the ladies off. That's when I realized that it's not necessarily what you say that's important, but the fact you don't give a shit that makes them attracted to you...at least at first.

So with that in mind, I decided to stop going out with the intention to meet women, get phone numbers, and get laid. My objective was to just go out and have fun. If I got to share a moment with a lady then great. If not, then no biggie because the level of fun I had on any given evening did not hinge on the whether or not a got a phone number or got laid. And lo and behold it fucking worked! By alleviating that pressure on myself to perform I was able to be myself. Next thing I know I'm sharing all kinds of moments with women and I didn't need to try to impress or worry about saying the wrong thing. I was just simply being myself. It was fucking great!

WiteOut · 2012-05-26T21:56:18+00:00

I'm planning on doing a post very soon about my transformation. I was going through my facebook timeline the other day and it really showed my how different I have become, all the way from my posture to the clothes I wear to the smile on my face. I'm not where I want to be just yet but I feel I will get there soon.

puaim · 2012-05-28T09:53:48+00:00

I've not really had a massive low point. I've always had pretty reasonable success, however I will share this:

before learning about pua, I was generally concerned about my success with girls. I had school, my body, my social circle going well, but not my lover life. The best thing pua did to me wasn't help me get better with women, it told me that I could. Something I could put on the backburner and come to when I needed it, if it was something I desired - like learning Japanese or the guitar.

Since actually reading it, I've come to the point where I'm just comfortable. I can sit down and have a horrible interaction with a girl, or sit through an awkward silence, or whatever, and feel comfortable. I'm not a massive player by any standards, but I'm no longer afraid to end up in awkward social situations, and lo and behold, they hardly ever happen now.

i guess I'll save the massive transformation story for another time.

Title	So can some successful Sedditors share their before and after stories?
Author	CrankRED
Upvotes	26
Comments	12
Date	May 26, 2012 6:31 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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