I recently have gotten a gf, but part of me feels like I can do better. I have a really high sex drive and I also have gotten a lot more confident and charismatic over the last year. I can pretty much approach any woman and make conversation. For some girls, I can easily get them attracted.

The problem is that now I am tied down in a relationship and I really like her, but part of me feels like I can do better. She is very sweet and kind, but I am not completely sexually attracted to her. I see other girls walking around campus (I live in college town) that are my perfect 9-10s. Problem is that I don’t want to cheat on her. I also am scared of losing her because I worry that girls with her good personality are rare. This is probably a scarcity mindset in some regard.

I’m more of a monogamous type guy, but I want a high end girlfriend. I probably could get one because I am confident and above average attractive, but again, I am scared of losing what I have (my gf) and not being able to find someone better.

Recently I have thought that maybe it’s okay to talk to other girls as long as I don’t tell her. I could do this until I find a new girl I have a better connection with and break up with my gf then. This way I don’t have to risk being single. It’s kind of unethical, but what do you guys think? I heard someone tell me that “you don’t go into a shoe-store without some already on your feet.” Lol