Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts

Ojayliving · 2016-03-27T05:18:26+00:00

Number 1) you know the right answer deep down on the inside... Take action anyway push through that resistance you are experiencing... I get it my man everyone experiences this when they first start, you need to get confident at approaching and confidence=competence aka you have to keep repeating it to get confident in your abilities at doing this... The only way to do this is to barrel through and take action anyway, cold approach is a skill set if you are not naturally good at approaching people it needs practice! Once you keep repeating it and pushing through your resistance you will start to gain in confidence and your expectations in your abilities will change to you knowing you will show the people you are approaching a good time instead of coming of as a creep... Change that expectation as it can become a self fulfilling prophecy, instead of thinking you will come off as a creep, think that you will offer the people you are approaching a good time and good energy

Number 2) you are caring wayyy too much what people will think about you man, 2 minutes MAX after your approach has ended they will forget about you forever, check out this post on this whole topic and you will understand http://www.ojayliving.com/how-to-stop-caring-about-what-other-people-think/ Good luck :)

clovers2345 · 2016-03-27T05:35:59+00:00

How many cold approach's have you done? I am going to say a few or none at all. Approaching girls is creepy but you want to know what is creepier, not approach them. Ojay is right and makes two valid points. When I want to do something even though I don't feel like it because of either negative beliefs, laziness, or etc. I recommend following the "Do it First" cycle. NOt my idea. First you do it- approach, then you think you can do it after u approach several times, and then you want to do it because u realize its not as hard and most girls are polite. Rinse and repeat.

Title	Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts
Author	slapchop_wookie
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	March 27, 2016 3:13 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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