Deep insecurities about being a virgin

3hreeringz · 2016-03-01T07:30:06+00:00

I was a virgin until the age of 21. So I can sympathize :)

The most important thing I can tell you is don't go hard on yourself, or think there's something wrong. There isn't. The fastest way for you to get laid is to be upfront about it with women. They are SUPER understanding about it. In fact, now that I think about it, that was exactly how I got my first... just said, "Hey. I'm a virgin. I don't really know what I'm doing but I like you..."

It'll come brutha. Trust me :)

SleezyPUA · 2016-03-01T08:17:31+00:00

If you're really insecure about it, try tinder. A lot of girls on there are at least partly looking to hookup.

But you shouldn't feel insecure about being a virgin at 19. A lot of people your age are virgins.

As for how to meet women, "Hi, I thought you were cute and I wanted to come meet you. I'm slapchop_wookie." will work wonders. Introduce yourself, talk with her for a bit and then exchanges numbers.

farts_and_mouths · 2016-03-01T08:20:27+00:00

Honestly I'm not crazy about that opener. Approaching a lot is great, but maybe start with something a bit lighter than straight up asking them out. Build up your confidence with little victories. Score a date, then make out, then feel her up, then ask about going all the way. There's no rush. I was a virgin til I was 21. It will happen for you

wi5hbone · 2016-03-01T20:00:20+00:00

First of all you dont have to feel insecure. There are really men out there who never had sex until they were 40, hence the movie.. a comedic take on the actual thing.

There are women older than you who are virgins too.

Take it one step at a time, get comfortable conversing with different women. Get a feel of your own style.

From there, reflect on what you learn and find ways to build on it with your style.

When you get better, during dates, make sure you lead. you are the one leading. not aggressive, but make sure you have a plan or at least a rough plan on where you're going to take her next, like shopping - while escalating, starting with handholding. always make sure to build comfort during the interactions or dates (if you manage to set up one)

be playful with her, and yet switching to topics about her in her life, then talking about yourself too and along the way building comfort. she wants to know you're interested in her, yet have confidence about what you do in Your life.

dont overdo things. learn to flow. dont worry if you say something silly by accident due to nerves, it happens. just make sure you dont overdo things and flow - since it sounds like you're just beginning.

Title	Deep insecurities about being a virgin
Author	slapchop_wookie
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	March 1, 2016 7:15 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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