Socially disabled/challenged guys

ImJustSo · 2017-11-07T12:30:06+00:00

Where are the success stories for the men with real problems who cannot participate in a society that preaches "greatness at all times" or forget it?

What do those stories matter? You'd ignore them and write them off, you'd pick them apart to find every reason it doesn't match up to your own situation and how you're suffering more! How your situation is so much harder, because you're so much uglier than me, have less money than me, blah blah blah.

There's a ton, ton, ton of dudes that you're talking about that are attractive and successful now but it's not where they started. You just see where they ended up and want it without the hard work? Lol What!

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-10T06:29:30+00:00

I’m getting it man. I’m asking you that to clarify something.

Your concern in your original comment involved other men, and how the ones physically superior to you, in whatever way, easily get all the girls.

But here’s the thing. What you described, however true, is mostly out of your control.

From a utilitarian perspective, your focus should be on YOU, YOUR pleasure and YOUR satisfaction, at all times. This is a complex concept that also entails decency and integrity.

If the pick up/seduction process, in its entirety, is not pleasant to you, then I’d say focus on making it so. It should not feel like a chore, as you seem to be describing in your original comment.

Mirrorminx · 2017-11-07T16:57:16+00:00

Set realistic self improvement goals. Recognize the limitations of your disability, and stop comparing yourself, listen to the underlying message.

If being dependent on others makes you less confident, find ways to be more independent. If instead, you like where you are, be positive about it! Talk about the good points of being you.

You're an adult human being, you have a lot of power to do things. Step one is just doing the things you want to be doing. Even if it feels slow, you'll get better at them over time.

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-07T17:26:21+00:00

I’d like to begin by asking you this (and be as specific as possible) why are you on this sub? I’m being serious, this is gonna clear up a lot bs.

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-10T07:01:48+00:00

Again, see, that’s really non of your concern, because, again, it’s not much under your control.

You’re in this life to maximize satisfaction. You have to see what turns you on, what parts of the seduction process you’re not deriving pleasure from (and why and how, if applicable, to change that). This needs research and experimentation.

Or not, it’s your life.

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-10T07:58:16+00:00

I feel you man. For one thing, read the subtle are of not giving a fuck.

Again, here me out. There are two things I want to address about your concern about your reputation.

1) it’s mainly out of your control (unless we’re talking about it in a legal framework) 2) your associating it with a lot of utility, which it doesn’t necessarily have.

Why would you concern yourself so much about something that wouldn’t give you that much satisfaction when there are other clear, concrete ways to get it?

DamnDatAssSoFine · 2017-11-11T06:13:44+00:00

Concerning yourself about what others mean: +2 satisfaction

Not bad, definitely has its place.

Looking to see what actually turns you on in seduction and capitalizing on that, for a utilitarian point of view: +10 satisfaction

Title	Socially disabled/challenged guys
Author	Aeon199
Upvotes	2
Comments	27
Date	November 7, 2017 7:06 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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