Solid Advice

2udaylatif

October 13, 2017

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Title	Solid Advice
Author	2udaylatif
Upvotes	243
Comments	20
Date	October 13, 2017 6:50 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/766w0x/solid_advice/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/solid-advice.1435218 https://theredarchive.com/post/1435218

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Ok, take this example. I'm currently chatting with a girl who works as a librarian. The conversation turned to why I like sci-fi and she proceeds to destroy me for holding an opinion she doesn't agree with. This would be fine if done in a teasing manner, but everything about her tone suggests she is simply trying to pick a fight and intimidate me with her intellect.

I have seen this same behavior pattern before in a family member, and I know from experience that their issue is fundamentally one of lacking experience with or appreciation for emotional intimacy. Not knowing how to engage with another person in a fun way, they seek only to establish themselves as superior in any way they can. In any case, this behavior is not because you or I said the wrong thing or approached the wrong way. The familial relationship structures of their childhoods simply lacked intimacy.

Hope this makes some sense.

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