Solo and Sober Nightclub

Patient-Ad-5015 · 2024-01-28T09:45:53+00:00

Man up, do the approach. That’s how you fix your problem. Nobody will come save you or magically get rid of your anxiety. I’m in your same boat, making excuses for not approaching. The only way is to just do it, don’t hesitate. Good luck.

AceOfSpadesGymBro5 · 2024-01-28T15:07:59+00:00

It starts with how you are at home before you go out. It's about the story you tell yourself everyday. What's your story? Is it:

"I'm a loner, who was bullied in high school, I have no friends, nobody loves me because I'm so weird".

OR

Can your story be something like:

"I love who I am, I love my life, I've grown into the person I am today through a series of events and circumstances that have shaped me into a quality guy. I'm complete and satisfied with myself and my life, there is nothing I need or want to get from others. Im sexy, I know Im sexy, I dress in a sexy way and women will find me sexy as well. And that's what draws women to me like a magnet".

So create your new positive story and discard your old woe is me story about how much you were bullied. When you go out it is imperative that you focus only on having fun and enjoying yourself and being in the moment. Focus on the process, not the outcome. That takes practice but it will work sooner rather than later.

If a girl gives you eye contact, you can go up to her and say "Hi, Im Bob. I hope Im not totally misreading the situation, but it looked like you were sending me signals to come talk to you". If they say "oh no, not at all, I was looking for my friend" just say "oh okay, my bad" and keep doing your thing. Chances are she won't say that though.

aklseduction · 2024-01-28T19:40:41+00:00

Stop going to clubs sober by yourself trying to get laid

epimpstyle · 2024-01-28T10:03:09+00:00

Any advice on how fix this?

Don't go to the club alone! Why do you put yourself in the most difficult situations?

If you think it is okay to go to a club alone, then... listen to the other advice.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-01-28T17:26:51+00:00

Your doing the right thing. One of the fundamentals of game is to do those things that make you uncomfortable. Destroy your ego and conditioned beliefs around it. And keep a positive vibe about it all. Sounds like you are doing this already.

Just be sure not to get discouraged and fall into self judgment. Keep it fun.

When you get positive outcomes, your confidence will build. So, the more nights you talk to people and enjoy yourself, the better. Don't get complacent. Keep pushing your comfort zone. Talk to people, even if you fail at 'being good'. Throw yourself into the fire, learn from it, make adjustments, etc...

And forget about the bullying and what not. It's not relevant. Focus on the process at hand.

Title	Solo and Sober Nightclub
Author	Party-Ganache9553
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	January 28, 2024 9:31 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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