Until recently I've never been very good with women. Didn't lose my virginity until I was 25, had only one serious gf, and dates were few and far between. Nowadays, though...beautiful women are literally throwing themselves at me and almost anywhere I go there's a woman who is receptive to me. It's been a long, sometimes terrifying, and often awkward journey to become the confident man that takes what he wants instead of hoping whatever girl will throw me a bone and pining away when she's not interested.

It wasn't some weird trick, faking it til I make it, routines, or any of the other bullshit that gets tossed around this and other pick up communities. I made myself into an extremely attractive, confident, and interesting man. I dress well and appropriately, I'm incredibly fit, have hobbies and friends that fulfill me, work for a company that I love, and just generally live my life in a way that makes me happy each and every day.

If you're having trouble with women or even just aren't having as much success as you'd like, it all comes down to you. The onus is on you to change and make yourself better. Women want to be seduced...often even more so than we want them. They crave a man that's confident enough to walk up to a stranger because he thought she was cute and wanted to meet her. They want to fall into bed and have the wild, passionate sex porn tries (and miserably fails) to emulate. They need it just the same as we do.

So, if you're fed up and want to make a change...the only time better than yesterday is today. Buy Models by Mark Manson and soak up what he's saying. Internalize it and put it into action. Stop watching porn and masturbating...it's a poor replacement for truly connecting with a woman and having truly passionate sex with her. Work on the way you dress, there's infinite resources out there on how to better present yourself to the world through dress. Exercise regularly and get on some program. It doesn't matter what program you choose so long as you stick with it. If you don't have a hobby or two that you're extremely passionate about, then find one. Guitar, art, fitness...it doesn't matter what it is so long as it fulfills you. Groom yourself and be the best version of you that you can possibly be.

These are just a few things to start with that have helped me get there. This will not be easy, it will not be comfortable, you are going to have doubts, you may get slapped or have a drink thrown in your face, and you for damn sure are going to get rejected more than you succeed in this pursuit. That being said, though, if you take the time to do these things and make real, meaningful change in your life, you will be happier than you could imagine. Massive change sucks, but small and constant change in the right direction is both doable and how you should approach this. Life's too short to not experience as much of it as you possibly can.

Tl;dr: Quit being afraid and fucking do something about it