First of all I realize this might be a a "beating a dead horse" post. I just thought I'd share.

My friends and I tend to go out to the bars on weekends in groups of about 4. You could say that we are much better at taking to women at the bar than other settings but have no system really. One of my friends brought girl he had been into for awhile out with us. To honest she was one of the most attractive girls we've spent that kind of time with in a long time. But we knew she was off limits. So she treated no differently than one of the guys. It was incredible how much having this attractive girl with us effected how other women at the bar noticed or reacted to us. Like I've said I know it's been said before but it's different seeing it for myself. Fast forward a week or so and my friend is telling us that the girl he brought out keeps asking about my other friend and I and really struck by not being harassed ( most generally being treated like another normal person) all night and thought that we must all be very good with the women.

As misguided as her claim was I do like to think of myself as a work in progress.

What I'm really saying is that I've found that I projected myself best when I wasn't even thinking of rules or systems or whatever bullshit. I just treated a beautiful chick as I would one of my friends which is a step for me.