Sometimes I feel that I'm manipulating them

recyclablebantha · 2015-05-23T05:39:01+00:00

When I'm talking to the girls, sometimes I know that if I do/say X, i'm gonna hook her up, but that doesn't feels right, especially if thats a girl from my class.

I would say that it's not because it's a girl from your class. It's because when you do and say things only to hook up, then you often do things that aren't really who you are. You're changing who you are, for others around you. Which is not very stable. It can make you feel.....wrong.

You might have to stop for a bit and start thinking about what you actually want in a girl. And I'm talking about more than looks. You're going to feel better about it if you connect with a girl based on who she is as a person. So you chat with a girl and find out how she works. Her emotions and motivations, etc.

Dyablo66 · 2015-05-23T14:05:59+00:00

You aren't manipulating them. If she doesn't like you she won't hook up, simple as that.

bangthemermaid · 2015-05-23T06:26:35+00:00

To me, seduction is not about manipulating people. It's about developing the most attractive traits of yourself and knowing the social dynamics that will get you the girls you are really interested in.

As long as you are being yourself and are open about your intentions with the women you meet, you are fine.

apackofwankers · 2015-05-23T08:57:55+00:00

Anytime you make a conscious choice to say or not say something, you are not "being yourself" and are instead just going with the flow.

Buddhists call this mindfullness., and it is something they work hard to develop.

What "you" are is a set of habits, as well as a higher consciousness. You can use your higher consciousness to override your habits and instincts, and in so doing, become less of an animal and more of a human being.

So, really, its you that you are manipulating, to be the person you want to be.

That's not a bad thing overall.

BaronTheBear · 2015-05-23T06:34:21+00:00

Stop over thinking things man. I think for you pick up seems like too much of a science. When I started I was following way too many rules and because I was following rules I got boring. At the end of the day you're just trying to convince someone to like you, it's not manipulative if it's done naturally and not as some science.

Title	Sometimes I feel that I'm manipulating them
Author	PF26
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	May 23, 2015 4:03 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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