Starting from the beginning

paulvario11 · 2019-09-13T20:28:40+00:00

yes I understand that feeling you got to do 6 things:

1-stop masturbation ,porn forever

2-workout (healthyfood)

3-dress well ,hairstyle ,perfume

4-focus on career(study,work,hobbie)

5-try to grow your friend circle (social media and real life)

6-Cold Approach usually until it works(eyecontact+good posture)

intelectualycurious · 2019-09-13T18:33:34+00:00

Don’t know where to start off? Approach every girl you’re attracted to in the face of fear. It’s not going to be perfect at first but you will be proud that you did it whether it was ‘successful’ or not.

CharmingGuitar · 2019-09-13T18:02:03+00:00

This. Same situation but I'm 28

moveandrepose · 2019-09-13T18:02:19+00:00

Embrace rejection. It will abound in your path to glory.

nitro41992 · 2019-09-13T20:05:40+00:00

A reddit reply is not going to solve your problems. Read Models by Mark Manson, find some friends to go out with, then practice.

Fishrage105 · 2019-09-13T20:20:04+00:00

Best thing to do is to start going out in some other nearby city, even if they reject you, you will never see them. I was shots cared of rejections and I went to other country at similar age. I once got 11 rejections same night, mostly cuz I didnt know the language but fuck it. It was one just talking to these girls. Once you see that there is nothing wrong with being rejected you can move on.

rushdbeisisjeiwksj · 2019-09-13T23:34:28+00:00

Grab a group of friends and start going out. Go have fun.

Work on your self confidence and mental health before even thinking about approaching girls.

Something helpful for conversation skills is to get comfortable in everyday situations with strangers i.e. cashier, bus driver, cab driver, waitress, etc

Girls are not your focus (at least they shouldn’t be). Just be a well rounded, sociable guy and the rest will follow.

People try too hard to break this down into a science (RSD videos, tip and trick videos, etc) when really it will all come naturally with high self confidence and honed social skills

omega_constant · 2019-09-14T01:02:53+00:00

See a response in another thread I just posted here.

The #1 obstacle that will prevent you from meeting the girl (or girls, who knows) of your dreams is the feeling that it is something to be achieved. You are sitting in the position of not having achieved this goal you have (to meet a girl) and you feel like there is some mountain in front of you which you must climb. When you have gotten to the top of this mountain, you will finally be able to see what's on the other side and you will have finally arrived or, at least, it's just a quick skip down the mountain and then you will have arrived.

This is all nonsense. Do you realize that there are women who have a fantasy to marry a guy who is in prison (and follow up on said fantasy by becoming penpals with inmates in the hopes of finally meeting "the one")?? This factoid alone should be enough to help you throw out this crap about feeling you need to measure up or earn her attention or any of that. Of course, you should be your best self, but the reason you should be your best self has nothing to do with women or dating or sex or any of that. You should be your best self for yourself. If part of being your best self involves having a relationship with a woman, then that will come. Focus on the self-development first.

What concrete steps can you take to develop your innate sense of self-worth? The answer is so obvious, it's right in front of you -- bust your ass doing whatever you excel at. That's it. The recipe is dead simple. If you have skill as an artist, take art classes and paint the shit out of the canvas. If you have skill as a musician, get a tutor and play the shit out the guitar. If you are good at selling things, then up your sales game and become the Ninja Salesman. Not to impress a girl. Not so that other people will have a positive image of you. No. Do it because it's obvious that the only reason you have gifts in the first place is so that you can develop them. Your self-worth is intrinsically bound up in developing the gifts you have. I don't care if you're a quadriplegic, Stephen Hawking (RIP) has left you with no excuses. Quit making excuses and develop your shit.

When you've put 10,000 hours into something you are excellent at doing, it will show. You will start to develop some mastery in your craft. Your audience is not that chick you'd like to impress. Your audience is not the neighbors or your co-workers. It's not even your boss. Your audience is you. When you know that you kick ass, it will shine through your entire being and it won't matter if the zombie masses can't see it because they're too busy chasing down their next Louis Vuitton bag. You know and that's all that matters.

The goals of meeting a girl and developing your ninja gift are not mutually exclusive. The PUA teachers say "always be on your way somewhere"... how much easier is it to do that when you're not faking it, but you really are on your way somewhere?? If she's not onboard, you'll find out soon enough... clock's ticking, ladies!

magnetradio · 2019-09-14T10:34:23+00:00

Let me elaborate on what @paulvario11 said. It's very profound if you work on these things in the course of your life.

By not masturbating and watching porn, you will have no choice but to approach, attract, and later on, sleep with women to get an orgasm.
Working out makes you more attractive to women, making it easier to talk to them. When women are attracted to you, all you have to do is say hi and things start to fall into place.
By dressing well, having a good haircut/hairstyle, and wearing some type of cologne or body spray helps you look good and smell good to women when you're out and about. To be honest, if you dressed okay, but wore some good cologne, you'll get similar results as a man who just dresses well and doesn't stink.
Focusing on your career, or just non-women related things, shows women you have a life outside of them. By improving your financial status, you'll have the confidence that you can provide for yourself and the people you care about most. This makes you more attractive to women who are looking for a serious relationship and wants to start a family.
Growing your social circle is good in many ways. Not just to have friends to hang out with, but also to bridge a gap that's holding you back. You may have a leaky faucet and need a plumber. You may happen to know a plumber who is willing to do the best job at a fair price.
Cold approaches are scary... only when you expect fireworks. By approaching women to "see what happens" you'll have fun in the process. You may find out that some women are ecstatic because they were hoping you would talk to them for a really long time. Think of a store you go to get your food and drinks before you go to work or on your lunch break. You may also find out that only 0.1% of the women you approach are blatantly rude. So if you approached 1,000 women, only 1 of them would be blatantly rude.

If you work on all of these things other parts of your life will improve as well. Don't feel the need to do everything at once and master them. The goal is to level up each day, each week, each month, and each year. When you look back at your life, you'll laugh at how far you've come.

Cameron3862 · 2019-09-13T20:37:34+00:00

online dating - tinder / bumble / hinge - where there's a 21 year old guy who feels alone and self doubt, thousands of girls feel the same way... swipe hard young grasshopper

Title	Starting from the beginning
Author	Thefksdontgive
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	September 13, 2019 4:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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