Struggling with "do not use text" over interested girl

TheXXL · 2015-07-21T05:17:09+00:00

There is a saying: "never fuck the company". Keep that in mind. If it doesn´t work out, this could get very uncomfortable for you, and/or for her. I would say don´t do it. There are so many beautiful, sexy and awesome girls, that dont work in your company.

Some years back, i had a similiar situation with a coworker. She worked in a different department in my company, and i saw her from time to time in our kitchen. Since we all were connected via skype, i then asked her out,... what can i say... no response whatsoever. When i then saw her, she avoided me. This was at the time uncomfortable for me, and obviously for her. About a month later, i got fired along many others due some tax evasion stuff on behalf of my boss, so this thing figured itself out somehow. but still, not that cool.

A more recent experience was with a woman from across my office, that i got into contact with. I one day initiated contact on our way home, since we had to go the same way. We got out for drinks, lunch and a few times on our lunch break. She was attracted to me, but was hesitant. I found out she was very shallow and got very disrespectful to me, so i broke contact.

Now we see eachother a few times a week on my cigarette break, and she doesn´t even look at me anymore. I don´t care that much, but my co workers start asking questions what´s wrong with us and so on... this is annoying. So if you are self confident enough, it could be ok, but keep in mind that others could be a pain in the ass, and it could jeaopardize your job in the worst case.

Psychocist · 2015-07-20T22:32:07+00:00

I wouldn't get carried away with the rules because every situation is different. But, yes, the general advice is to refrain from gaming women over text because it's much less effective than gaming in person where you can flirt and escalate.

How come you can't just see this coworker at work? I mean, if she's added you on facebook, there's no harm in asking her out over facebook. I'd prefer to ask her out in person if at all possible.

realneil · 2015-07-20T23:56:30+00:00

Why not just walk into her office and ask her out?

recyclablebantha · 2015-07-21T04:44:30+00:00

As a 30 male I want to ask what you guys think of talking to a girl by facebook/whatsapp to set up the logistics in the current situation:

Texting is excellent for logistics. But you're not talking about logistics. You're talking about replacing in person communication, when you seem to have access and opportunity to communicate with her in person.

A coworker is interested in me (I know that because my female friends told me),

Quit dealing with third parties and he said, she said crap. Deal with her directly.

seems that this girl is already interested/attracted, I don't see her too much because she stays in another room.

So......? Go to that other room. Say hi.

Nowadays we use whatsapp and facebook to communicate, I was thinking of making some comment by fb IM since she added me and ask for her number to ask her out (yes direct approach like that). What you guys think about it? I just got a bit confused of this "don't use text" kind of rule.

This isn't about logistics. You're talking about asking her out over text, which shows lack of confidence when you could walk over and do so in person. Just march yourself over there and start a conversation in real life. And on your way out, suggest hanging out and do this IN PERSON.

As for getting a phone number, come on man...... Join the 21st Century. ;) You already have her on FB, which probably means that you can already text directly to her phone. And FB messenger has a call function, so you can already call her PHONE directly. You don't need to get a number at this point. It's redundant.

wotsitsaredelicious · 2015-07-21T08:48:06+00:00

Would not recommend asking her out via Facebook just because she added you. Ive been stung several times thinking I've got a green light because a girl added me, but she hasn't been interested at all.

Talk to her in person, gauge her interest, then ask her out/ for her number.

newmood · 2015-07-20T22:25:04+00:00

The answer is always "Yes."

So, yes, directly contact her via whatever and ask her out.

feloniousgoat · 2015-07-21T00:05:20+00:00

It's amazing to me a 30 year old man is asking the internet permission to text a girl.

Title	Struggling with "do not use text" over interested girl
Author	Stifflerbr
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	July 20, 2015 10:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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