Stuck with beta friends

givesthebestadvice · 2016-04-02T07:26:41+00:00

Not having cool friends is just an excuse you tell yourself so you don't have to go out. Here is the thing. Until you yourself don't bevome cool why do you expect interesting people to hang out with you. You are probably boring right now. The thing about old friends is they will start pulling you down once you start seeing results, they will keep telling you "Don't go up to that girl, you are making yourself a fool and everyone will laugh at you." If they do that just dump them. You will be much better off without them. If they are cool friends hang out with them but don't talk about "pickup stuff" with them. Most people are boring , want to do what's comfortable and don't care about self-development. I think the easiest way to meet someone likeminded is through online groups. Don't expect them to be your savior and just stop going out with them if they turn out to be assholes or bullshitters. Find someone you click with and try going out multiple times a week. It will be cripling at first but you will start seeing results soon if you take it seriously.

The main point is stop waiting for shit. I can tell from your post that you are someone who is expecting life to give you everything without working for it. You will just end up waiting and waiting. Even if you get a prize thrown at you you won't know how to handle it.

And don't look down on your friends who aren't as good with girls.

erythrocyte666 · 2016-04-02T17:15:37+00:00

Dude, I was stuck with a very similar group of friends when I was in college. My advice to you would be to not lose their friendship if you genuinely like them. BUT, limit your time with them and start branching out to other social circles via classmates, student clubs/organizations, frats if your uni has any, etc.

Trust me when I say that you'll always be stuck with this frustration if you don't branch out and spend majority of your social time with them.

TheXXL · 2016-04-04T12:34:47+00:00

Since I sit with then and be with them most of the time, I get a little exposure to girls, and I myself sucked at interacting with girls, but I realized it and want to improve, but don't know how or what in this situation will help.

It is simple: Do what you want. what do you want? get better with girls. How to do it? go out of your way and actually approach girls. Talk to them.

Previous semester, I was with guys who were better with girls, and noticed that other girls too gave me more attention, but now everything is just opposite.

Don't! just don't you ever rely on the attention girls give you. Are you a pussy that is too scared to approach a girl? are you one of those weak little afcs that feed off of the smallest IOI a girl gives you and falls in love with them immediately? You want to be a man. A man doesn't rely on others attention and validation. A real man knows his worth and doesn't care about what others think about that.

Now, how can I improve myself or get better at talking to girls when I get so less interaction with them?

Once again: go an talk to girls. They are literally everywhere, except your bedroom (yet!), and since you were talking about your friend being so beta, you seem to want to be an alpha male, so be a alpha male and lead your friends. If they don't accept your lead, do it alone and be a example for them. If they are worth your friendship they will follow you and maybe become better with women themselves.

qiscos · 2016-04-05T15:25:57+00:00

Learn to go at it solo. I'm in a similar situation and I just learned not to expect anything from them.

SmoothPrimal · 2016-04-02T09:27:06+00:00

Lol you talk like a beta. Betas friend are great. Do you really think alphas hang out with each other? Alphas are surrounded by followers (relative betas). The nerdier they are the more you can manipulate them. I have a bunch of nerdy friends and they would do anything for me just to be 10 feet from one the girls I go out with.

Title	Stuck with beta friends
Author	grey_alien_99
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	April 2, 2016 6:57 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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