First post and keeping it short. I was studying and thought this would be a great way to share some peer reviewed evidence from my notes and textbook.

We're currently talking about the "Interpersonal process model of intimacy." In a nutshell, it's exactly what Mark Manson and many others have been telling us, and what you should never forget.

Self-disclosure. (i.e, Vulnerability)

It goes on to say that the "closeness" felt in relationships between two people (men or women) is created by 2 things: 1) self disclosure and 2) the responsiveness of the listener.

Don't ever think that going up to the girl you're interested in and telling her every weird fantasy and embarrassing story you have is going to get you laid. You'd be completely forgetting about point number two. If her responses suck, it ain't workin'.

Revealing yourself appropriately is key. What is appropriate? Well it depends on the context. How long have you known this person? Where are you currently? What's your relationship history with this person? You should consider all of these variables and more to be socially appropriate and generate positive feedback.

In any relationship situation - whether you just met her or you've been dating 9 years - this is absolutely critical. It's something you can't avoid if you want to get intimate, and it's something you have to do correctly.

And that's what practice is for.