Studying only inner game does not work for me.

IronManSeduction · 2016-10-31T22:08:43+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you.

However, your belief that the courting process is bullshit is what's contributing to your frustration.

You have to learn to enjoy the 'song and dance'; the little games that men and women play; the successes and failures; the interactions that go somewhere, and the interactions that don't; the women's personalities, interests, and feminine energies.

Basically, you have to learn to be at peace with the realities of meeting and seducing women.

If not, then you will frustrate yourself, simply because seduction is a difficult and bumpy road.

If you are simply unwilling to deal with these realities, then go to a prostitute. There is no courting bs, just business transaction.

Kurt_Kobain · 2016-10-31T17:30:30+00:00

I think the majority of guys here have the problem where they are pursuing women and get shot down because they're not good-looking.

Fixed for you.

nonsass · 2016-10-31T17:32:17+00:00

I'm a fair bit older and have only banged 3, so to me you have lots of game!

I wonder at what point someone can claim to 'have game'?

How many lays based on ones age? Does a 16 year old with 10 lays have indisputable game which we could alll learn from?

There are guys on goodlookingloser who claim to have no game at all, and some of them have banged over 150 girls and are in their early 20's.

Or maybe a hell of a lot of it is down to your looks and logistics than your 'game'...???...

When did you start to lean game? Were all of your lays after you started learning? How big are the gaps in between your lays? And how much do you approach?

Blazing_Afternoon · 2016-10-31T19:16:47+00:00

I got into r/seduction around last year and got addicted to reading self-improvement books, started working out daily, and meditation.< This is great, but other than meditating, all of your improvements are based on external information, and none of it is rooted in introspection, which is what "inner game" is. You're seeking outside information as opposed to internal ones.

Overall I can say I have vastly changed my outlook on life in a more positive light.<

I'm guessing that this positive outlook on life is temporary and escaping you in some moments.

I get a shit ton more attention from women now, but I do not get laid nearly as often as I would like<

Again, this is placing an emphasis on the external, which is temporary and fleeting. Are you trying to talk to them when you get attention? Cause if you're not, especially in college, then your inner game is not taken care of.

I am satisfied with my life and my personality. But I get lonely as fuck all the time and I want more women. My mind is happy but my dick is not.<

Is your dick not a part of your life? How can "you" be happy if a part of you is unhappy. That tells me your understanding of inner game is a little off. Also, if you're lonely, have to ever thought of WHY you feel lonely? Where it stems from? Finding out why you feel a lack is very important.

Especially since the majority of girls are devoid of any sort of real personality<

This is part of inner game. How you see the world is a reflection of who you are. Why do you think you see girls in that kind of light, and how does it apply to yourself? Do you have a personality, or are you devoid of one? If you're devoid of one, then why? Seeing girls in that light is your shadow, as Jung would put it, coming out.

Well, a lot of these are points in your text is repeated, but even your last point reflects the idea of you seeking external help, rather than reflecting internally. Problems like these cannot be solved by 'doing' or learning something, as you have seen with all your reading.

You even see inner game as something that works / doesn't work which presumes that inner game is something that you do. Inner game is about learning your own insecurities and seeing how your own biases are reflected out into the world. You can't do inner game, as inner game is a process.

Title	Studying only inner game does not work for me.
Author	ActualObama
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	October 31, 2016 5:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5adh66/studying_only_inner_game_does_not_work_for_me/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/studying-only-inner-game-does-not-work-for-me.1290008 https://theredarchive.com/post/1290008

Comments