Stuff on here contradicts high rated posts on /r/socialskills and /r/getsuave

Ihatemost · 2016-03-28T00:35:53+00:00

There is no "one size fits all" or absolute formula for human interaction. In this case, it's different subreddits having different approaches. I don't know anything about r/getsuave so I'll talk about r/socialskills. In that subreddit, it's people who have trouble being themselves, being comfortable and confident with who they are. The first step is to give them that confidence. Once they have that baseline, they can move on to techniques in winning people over, basically more advanced stuff than just "being yourself", which is what that subreddit is about. This sub doesn't say to become a different person. It gives tips on what you should and should not do to attract people. It would be overwhelming to give all this advice to people in r/socialskills. Imagine someone having trouble just walking up to a woman, and then the advice being given is about kino (for example).

Women can see when someone is being fake. In the end you have to be yourself, but to equip yourself with all the best tools to get where you want to be.

EddieFender · 2016-03-28T00:34:58+00:00

The answer to your question is more complicated than "we're right, they're wrong," but anyone who says to give up after being declined one time is just wrong.

bigang99 · 2016-03-28T03:16:08+00:00

nothings ever black and white

yoozio · 2016-03-28T03:34:41+00:00

Posts on /r/seduction contradict one another too. It's because it is not one person giving advice, and advice can be situational. You don't need tricks to get women. All of the pick-up lingo that you used aren't tricks at all; they are a normal part of human interaction, whether you are associating with men or women. The only difference is people outside of the seduction community do not talk like that, and even some in this community do not use that terminology

All of those terms are ways of describing someone who is easy going and fun to be around. They mean staying level-headed, bantering and giving people a hard time for the fun of it.

There is nothing wrong with being normal. Most of what this community revolves around is becoming the best version of yourself. If you are doing that solely to get women, you are doing it for the wrong reason.

As for the decline for a meetup part of your post, there is nothing wrong with trying again. People have lives. Sometimes they aren't available. It happens.

Big_TX · 2016-03-28T05:45:20+00:00

People with really good social skills who know how to have power in interactions (on not bend it others) and who are good ant getting a desired outcome have frame controle. Confident people have strong frames In general.

Most people who have social skills tease people (people define begs very differently) push pull is a large part of what people think of when they think of flirting.

A normal cool guy should be able to meet girls through his social circle and with out haveing to do anything other than progress the interaction. But just your normal cool guy can't meet a girl in a night club. There is skill to clubbing. You you want to have an abundance of women, you have to put your self in a very advantageous social situation (which is not that easy to do) or learn clubbing.

Most people just want to be more normal and have decent social skills so when they meet girls through their day to day life they can get some of those girls.

Big_TX · 2016-03-28T05:45:23+00:00

People with really good social skills who know how to have power in interactions (on not bend it others) and who are good ant getting a desired outcome have frame controle. Confident people have strong frames In general.

Most people who have social skills tease people (people define begs very differently) push pull is a large part of what people think of when they think of flirting.

A normal cool guy should be able to meet girls through his social circle and with out haveing to do anything other than progress the interaction. But just your normal cool guy can't meet a girl in a night club. There is skill to clubbing. You you want to have an abundance of women, you have to put your self in a very advantageous social situation (which is not that easy to do) or learn clubbing.

Most people just want to be more normal and have decent social skills so when they meet girls through their day to day life they can get some of those girls.

Title	Stuff on here contradicts high rated posts on /r/socialskills and /r/getsuave
Author	caramel_jordan
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	March 28, 2016 12:13 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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