Talk to much

thewtfzone · 2012-08-10T18:47:14+00:00

Completely unaware of problem
Aware of problem hours after it happens
Aware of problem minutes after it happens
Aware of problem while it happens and corrects it
Always aware of the problem and never lets it happen again.

Almost there!

smokintreesinatree · 2012-08-10T18:58:28+00:00

start relating to the emotions behind their stories, not just the content. for example: "oh you fed the elephants at the zoo? that must have felt so <insert>! whenever i want to feel that way, i <insert>."

also, ask more open-ended questions, ask them to expand on things, etc.

FULLRETARD88 · 2012-08-10T19:26:16+00:00

I do the same thing on occasion I think. It may make us come off as "one uppers" but fuck it, I can't help it that for every story someone has I have a better one. Its hard to keep your mouth shut.

bluehat9 · 2012-08-10T21:09:40+00:00

Using your example: "Ah elephants are so cool, they can be a little flirty though, in my experience"

This will cause her to ask what you mean, and then you can tell her really briefly your story about tanzania.

I think if you always take whatever they say and instantly make it about yourself, that comes off really badly. Whereas if you can comment on it, and through your words (vague but interesting) cause them to want/ask you to tell them more, and you can answer with a dhv story, that looks good.

NomadicBit · 2012-08-10T19:28:11+00:00

This is a difficult issue to work around. Believe me, I know. I used to talk way too much about myself in a way that was off putting. At one point I was even told that I sound arrogant or like a 1-upper. I don't consider myself either and took this as an insult, but what they were saying had value. I spoke too much about what I did and didn't do enough to spark the emotion they must have felt based on my own experiences. I rarely actually share what I did anymore, just the feelings.

But this leaves a hole...how are they going to find out what an awesome person I am and how much cool shit I've done. Well, most people suck at asking questions/conversation in general. So I made a group of friends that do the bragging for me. Now I don't have to brag and I don't look like a 1-upper. I don't know that this helps, but thought I'd share anyway.

Title	Talk to much
Author	AbcZzzzZzZ
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	August 10, 2012 5:33 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/y08di/talk_to_much/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/talk-to-much.1337077 https://theredarchive.com/post/1337077

Comments