Talking at parties

matrix2002 · 2013-11-09T15:26:54+00:00

You need to connect deep and wide with girls.

Wide: Lots of subjects, lots of topics, lots of activities. Change the topic constantly, tell jokes, do interesting stuff together: playing games, roleplaying, ect.

Deep: When you do talk and do something, do it intensely. People like passion. Get interested in their lives and their passions. Then change the subject or activity.

Then, when you feel like you have made a really good connection, get them alone. Not in a bedroom alone, but maybe on the back porch where there it's only you two.

When you are alone, you escalate until you kiss or whatever, sex is probably not going to happen right away, you just want to become a romantic interest.

Then, you can see her again and develop the relationship further, be it casual or serious.

PandaFred · 2013-11-09T14:15:45+00:00

Well I can take this post 2 ways.

If you are just trying to get laid, alcohol and parties usually allow the talking to run smoothly for the most part. If you can get a platonic conversation going, just keep em laughing. [Sounds shallow, but it's true.]

Second way, you are trying to get some content out of the relationship. In that case, you have to figure a way to break the ice. Ask her about herself and see what she is interested in, going about doing this-- I haven't figured out yet. However, if you can pinpoint what she is interested in you have a foot in the door.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-11-09T17:43:46+00:00

Some girls just may not be into you at those parties so keep that in mind. That being said just strike up conversations with a bunch of girls there, when you've reached the high point of the convo just say that you're gonna grab another drink or head to the bathroom or some other excuse and say you'll see them around later or you'll see them on the dance floor. After you've done this for a while with a couple girls and the alcohol is starting to kick in you can go down to the dance floor and see all the girls that you've met dancing in their little respective circles. Since you already spoke to them it wouldn't be uncomfortable to just go up to their group and be near them and just dance. Make some eye contact, dance near them, spin them around, proceed to grind. If she isn't interested or doesn't want to grind for whatever reason just move onto the other girls you opened that night, good luck.

officialpoypoy · 2013-11-09T16:55:54+00:00

escelate push and pull. a lot of guys don't cuz their afraid of losing the girl. as soon as ur afriad of losing her you automatically lose!

no bullshit u don't even need to know her or her know you. just make the talk fun.

see how far you can take it. how much fun could you create with yourself and this girl? (also make it romantic don't be a clown)

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-11-09T20:25:07+00:00

Parties suck. At least they did in my school. Occasionally, we heard and went to a large party and they were decent. If you go to a semi large school with chill cops, then you'll have a better experience than I did.

The thing I've learned is, you have to be extremely extroverted to communicate well and come across as someone cool in parties. What I've noticed what RSD says and what I've noticed is, you have to be the life of the party (don't try too hard though; being a try hard is VERY noticeable and unattractive).

People in parties have extremely bad attention spans, especially in the extremely crowded ones. Not for the introverted types like me. If you come off as calm and relaxed in a rager "Hi I'm ...." she will NOT remember you unless she already found you attractive in the first place. This agrees with my previous paragraph.

You're better off meeting people in your dorms and classes first as low energy environments, which gives you a better jump pad to party on at parties like you want. I'll tell you after all the parties and bars I've ventured, knowing people beforehand makes things a lot easier to socialize to meet people AT the party.

Wait until you turn 21. Bars are a lot better and more mature. Not to mention people at bars don't usually have the memory spans of gold fish.

captainglow · 2013-11-09T17:54:16+00:00

Just get a good conversation going then hit her with, "Ay guh. Lemme pee in yo butt." Then slap her on the ass.

80 percent of the time it works every time.

airbornemaniac · 2013-11-10T00:56:01+00:00

If you have a female friend that doesn't mind, having her as a wing works wonders. Other than that, typical Seddit stuff, talk, smile, laugh, and stay relaxed. The presence of alcohol makes this all easier, and college freshman usually drink to much (don't do this, stay in control of yourself).

hippystir · 2013-11-11T15:05:56+00:00

Act like you own the party. Tell yourself that the girls there WANT to talk with you. Then approach with a witty comment in mind.

RunItGunIt · 2013-11-09T19:25:20+00:00

Don't go out with that goal. Women are people too, and they aren't only looking to get with you.

Title	Talking at parties
Author	Dorchester_
Upvotes	36
Comments	13
Date	November 9, 2013 8:38 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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