The conversation gets sexual

GSF0 · 2012-11-28T08:38:49+00:00

Big tip: when the occasion comes up, say that you're going to take her to a place (your place, car, somewhere that you would be alone and it would be like your territory) and tell things kinda of subtle. Example of my own experience: I am a guy that have always tried to discover special things to do that get the chicks really turned on (neck, inside part of the thigh, hair etc). So I became very experient in getting the girls crazy before having sex, with masturbation, kissing their necks or a more "heavy" kino. Everytime that the conversation gets sexual I start to say things like "You're saying that because you don't know what I'm going to do to you" or "Let me see if you're going to be that way when I bring you here at my place". Give it a try and you'll see. Don't be into virtual sex and like "oh I'm going to do XXX this way" "I would love a blowjob from you". Be subtle. Let her wondering what it's coming next, what you are going to do to her and why do you say that she is going to get crazy when she gets at your house.

2012-11-28T02:37:43+00:00

Dude, just fake it. What do you THINK sex is like? Yeah, that's pretty much it.

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2012-11-28T00:14:37+00:00

You fake it bro, or tease her. Like for example: shes talking about sex you ask her how she likes it. From what she tells you can either say: Oh you a re good girl, or damn you are a naughty one ;). And then maybe you can say: would you like it if did XXXXX to you? And see she how she responds.

pinkhero · 2012-11-28T02:35:09+00:00

When is the topic being brought up. It can vary from being a shit test, to her wanting to have sex with you. Is it mid opener, during isolation, where.

My best answer would be "slow it down, we just met" or if you are early (during or almost right after opener) say "Jesus Christ what is she doing, talking about blow jobs, and sex" To her friends.

GhostBIBBY · 2012-11-29T07:01:35+00:00

I think a pattern you will learn with dealing with anything you think feel you want to hide or are embarrassed by is this. OWN UP TO IT. Completely. Fact is you will run into many many roadblocks in the game. You are too young, you are too short etc etc etc...

If you are sexually inexperienced and she mentions something sexual say something to the effect of "I've never done that." Straight stare. Slight grin.

Or "I'm a good boy. I'm saving it for someone special."

You learn as you go along it's not who you are that matters. It's how you present how you are.

That are many names for it but I think a common one that makes a lot of sense is called frame control.

I disagree in a lot of instances to this fake it till you make it stuff. Fact is girls will be able to tell if you get laid a lot or not. There are a million and one different things as someone starting out that you are communicating at a subconscious level that says and makes you reek of I don't sleep with a lot of women.

Fact is that is fine. Especially for a guy your age. OWN IT. Be confident in your frame. If a conversation goes sexual don't try to speak from experience. BRAG about how little experience you have. You are pristine. You are innocent. Some girls will like that. Flat out some girls will not.

But it's who you are at this point and it's a million times better to convince a girl that who you are is awesome and worth being with than lying or pretending to be something you are not and losing her the moment she figures it out. And she will figure it out. They always figure it out.

puaCurveBall · 2012-11-28T00:06:44+00:00

Read /r/sex

JustinJensen · 2012-11-28T06:10:48+00:00

Actually, do this. Wanna talk dirty with a women? Read the book My Secret Garden. It's all about female sexual fantasies. It'll blow your mind.

JustinJensen · 2012-11-28T05:02:21+00:00

Unfortunately, experience is the missing link here. So like others have said fake it until you make it.

But do more than just fake it. Assume attraction and that they want you. Own it. So really, try letting them do the work. Ask her what she likes (this will help you with amazing sex later), then ask her if she would like it if you did those things to her. Over, and over, and over and over again :)

sedrees · 2012-11-28T14:05:16+00:00

yo OP, listen to this. When talking about sex with girls, try to always be subtle (read GSF0's comment). it makes you much more mysterious, gives you the element of surprise in the bedroom, and the she having to wonder what you're going to do makes her THAT much more turned on, because SHE has to imagine it, and no one knows better what she likes than herself. This works wonders for dirty-talk as well, but depends on how the sexual tone is. Set it kind of smooth, and don't say "i'm gonna do this and this" but use her imagination, say like "imagine being touched in just the right places" shit like that.

uututhrwa · 2012-11-28T20:22:05+00:00

Don't give a shit.

drwl · 2012-11-29T22:19:30+00:00

i would see these as hoops, just jump through them

GungHoDouchebag · 2012-11-28T02:26:11+00:00

watch pornographic films.

2012-11-28T05:41:28+00:00

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Title	The conversation gets sexual
Author	doublenarrow
Upvotes	17
Comments	17
Date	November 27, 2012 11:53 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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