The damn 3 second rule

TunechiOnYoTunaFish · 2017-06-15T23:11:06+00:00

It's not just for attractive girls. I force myself to approach anyone, male or female, regardless of age (above 18, of course), who looks interesting or like someone I'd enjoy talking to.

Example: Last night, I went out for beers with 3 friends, 2 female, 1 male (not that it really matters). I saw this huge muscle-fat dude arm wrestling anyone who'd take him on with a huge group around him, I got up, went over to his table and took him on. He kicked my ass handily, but we talked for a few minutes, and then I ended up making friends with one of his other challengers, found out he was there playing board games (I fucking LOVE board games) with a buddy of his, and ended up exchanging contact info with them both. One of them even said, "Who've thought we'd have met another board gamer in a bar?!"

My friends were blown away (in a good way) that I'd just get up randomly and talk to strangers, make friends, and invite them over to my table to drink with us. I suddenly became the coolest person at the table. It's instant social proof and a great way to meet new people and become comfortable socializing. Forcing myself to approach anyone who looks interesting helps me stay grounded in the reality that attractive girls are just people, and I have no reason to feel any anxiety about approaching them, or anyone else.

Obviously, I still get approach anxiety to some degree, but this has helped me a lot.

datingcoachonwheels · 2017-06-15T20:05:15+00:00

Just YOLO. besides, worst case scenario you will never see her again.

DaygameCoach · 2017-06-16T00:17:05+00:00

When I was a newbie, I switched from long approaches in bars where you see her across the room, try to make eye contact across the distance in venue and your belly button approaches hers and it takes a while to get to her....to ones where I just wander around a venue and open over my shoulder as I pass the hotties. I can do the long approaches now of course, but I am used to the short ones and they work.

souljabri557 · 2017-06-16T00:47:49+00:00

I personally don't like the 3 second rule because it shoves me in my head. I just like the mantra "my feet move faster than my head can think." It gives me some irrational boost of energy to just take the first step, and by that point, I've already won.

SyrusDrake · 2017-06-15T23:57:20+00:00

My philosophy is rejection will happen to you. Rejection will happen to me. Rejection happens to everyone, no matter how amazing they are. Think of the most beautiful woman. Think about her asking married men for sex. Men who love their wives, love their family. You are living in a fantasy if you think the most beautiful woman can't get rejected. Everyone gets rejected. Rejection is natural. I go up to women fully prepared to be rejected. I'm not ashamed of my attraction for the women I approach. I'm not ashamed if they reject me. I'm not ashamed if the whole world sees it. I talked to a beautiful woman and told her I wanted her. I went after what I wanted honestly. I have no reason to be ashamed. No matter if she rejects me. No matter if the world sees it. There is no one in this world who is liked by everyone. Your ego holds you back. Your ego wants everyone to love you. Stop enabling your ego. Go out and go after what you want. You'll never get what you want if you wait for it to come to you. That's never going to happen. You want something, go for it. The universe rewards action.

2017-06-16T01:48:54+00:00

Fuck this shit, she has A nice butt, and I'm A mother fucking Joestar, Imma talk to her.

Xanarxses · 2017-06-16T09:44:03+00:00

Hmmmmmmm I know from experience that nothing works for me. No "trick" or "method" gets rid of the problem.

So if you're like me, I'm certain you don't want to hear this but the best way is to just do it.

What can change the nature of a man?

Belief.

If you can believe. If you can convince yourself.

You'll do it.

2017-06-15T21:38:26+00:00

What is the three second rule?

datingcoachonwheels · 2017-06-16T00:25:58+00:00

I use a different strategy, and I made you a video reply to explain: https://youtu.be/GcD-fRTZtSg

Snooze212 · 2017-06-21T19:43:35+00:00

Sounds weird, but sometimes I'll trick my brain into thinking I'm not actually approaching this girl, I dropped my fkin apple and it's rolling across the floor and I need to make it stop rolling and pick it up!! And the girl happens to be stood right next to the apple so I say hi and start talking to her, it's common courtesy.

Title	The damn 3 second rule
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Upvotes	12
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Date	June 15, 2017 7:51 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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