Title is clickbait on purpose. I’ve tried many styles of tinder game and there’s only one that so far has given me good results. This works for me. But I think the core concepts apply for most.

Here it is:

HAVE GOOD PHOTOS

That’s it. In my experience everything else is secondary. You don’t need to be incredibly attractive (I’m not), but you do need good photos. Something that works is you with attractive girls, you doing some activity, you with animals, you solo. You don’t need all of these but try to keep it at one each.

Bio, in my experience, is secondary. I have had good luck with a dreamy/DHV bio like “let’s go dance bachata and forget about our problems”, but I don’t think it matters that much. I also have my work listed, being an engineer helps, but honestly I don’t think girls care that much.

On to the messaging.

I have quite a busy life so sometimes I message matches even 2-3 days after we get matched. I don’t do it on purpose, it’s just what my life lets me.

If I can come up with a opener based on her bio/photos I do it, otherwise I go with “how’s the week treating you/how did your weekend go”. Very simple again and very little punctuation. IMO the opener is the least important thing (unless it’s a needy one). Most girls don’t reply anyway.

I try to keep the going back and forth very short, again because I’m quite busy. I’d say 5-7 messages total (both of us) and then I say “let’s move this to texting, send me your number”. No emojis, no interrogation point, nothing. I just say that. So far only one girls hasn’t given me her number.

Texting

Again 3-5 texts top and then I say “let’s grab a drink/have a coffee. This Saturday at 4 in XYZ. How’s that sound?”

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Results are okay, but you need lots of matches. I’d say 1/3 of matches I get the number, 2/3 of them I go on a date (often they lose interest because I don’t ask on a date soon enough because I’m busy).

With the last account reset I’ve gotten around 30 matches in a week, 8-9 numbers, 4 dates.

You just have to get used to lots of filtering from their part, and honestly from your part. The dates themselves are a screening process themselves, I’ve gone on two so far — one no kiss close because I was an idiot, one k close (but I don’t wanna see her again).

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I know I’m not giving out complex tricks and procedures, because I think there aren’t. You just have to have good photos and not come across as needy in the messages. Also not giving a shit about ghosting because it’s just how it is.