It's Saturday Night. You decide you don't wanna stay home, so you go out to that place you like downtown! You get there and you're a little anxious. Everyone is already dancing, talking, vibing, etc. For you, it's normal! You've already taught yourself to acknowledge your anxiety and proactively work to overcome it. So, you take some deep breathes, gather the courage, and decide to start your night by talking to that cool group right beside the bar. You get there, the group is friendly, you introduce yourself, and everything is going great.

Somehow, you no longer feel anxious and you're just enjoying yourself...living in the moment. You talk for a little bit, laugh, joke around, and then BOOM! Your mind goes blank, and you run out of things to say. "Shit" - you say to yourself - "What do I do now". Due to what just happened, your heart rate increases, you start to stutter, and your anxiety is back. What the hell do you do? You've met this awesome group that you want to spend the rest of your night with, they've accepted you into their reality, and you HAVE to do something about what's happening to you....BUT WHAT?!

Here's EXACTLY What I Do To NEVER Run Out Of Things To Say And Avoid Awkward Silences:

DISCLAIMER: What I am about to share has been tested hundreds of times. These methods were used by me personally and work.

P.S: These methods should only be used in moments of anxiety. DO NOT rely on these methods as your primary conversation tools. Use these as back up ONLY. Our goal at Project Ecstasy isn't to turn you into a Social Robot, but rather a Natural, Charismatic Individual! Express your personality genuinely, and ONLY use these methods when you're out of juice.

Enough talking, Let's Get Into It

1. Accept that Awkward Silences are Bound to Happen

Yes, that's right! The first step you want to do is accept that awkward silences happen.

"BUT WHY?"

Welp, when you are desperately trying to avoid every single awkward silence, your mind will keep looking for the "perfect" thing to say, you get shoved in your head, you're not present anymore, and SURRPISE! Shit gets awkward. When you let go of the NEED to have the perfect thing to say, and just accept that some of things you'll say may be weird.....You'll notice your conversation skills get better instantly. Once your filter is out, you have a wider range of topics to explore and you're less likely to be awkward....Paradoxical much? I KNOW!

2. Have Some Back Up Subjects/Topics in The Back of Your Mind

Another thing that has helped me A LOT when I was first starting out is having a backup. When you're first starting out, this is a life saver! Here's what to do:

-Grab a Note Book -Grab a Pen -Write at least 3 subjects you are interested in (Make sure they can lead to full on discussions) -Avoid Questions that lead to a Yes/No answer.

When you have some subjects in the back of your head, you can always go back to them in moments of anxiety or when you don't know what to say.

Some cool subjects:

  • The Weather...No, I'm Kidding

But seriously, ANYTHING works. Combined with the correct Vocal Tonality/Body Language/ Eye Contact/ Facial Expressions and all other sub communications, all topics can make the person/group you're talking to almost beg for your next word. So, if you feel like to can't keep the attention of people (or even have it in the first place), this is where you need to begin. (I'll be covering those on another day + in depth on our YouTube Channel)

Sub Communications are your super powers. Period.

I can list a 100 more ways you can keep a conversation going and never run out of things to say, but I won't. Why? Because you'll be overwhelmed, you won't know where to start, and you'll do nothing.

So, to see the fastest results....DO ONE THING AT A TIME, MASTER IT, MOVE TO THE NEXT THING.

If you prefer to learn in a Video Format + a more In-Depth Approach, Here's the Link to our YouTube Video about this very thing:

LINK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62kUP_B3BAM&

Do you find these helpful and want me to write more? Let me know!

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See you on the next one, Omar | Project Ecstas