The Fake Alpha Males - PostMasculine

puaCurveBall · 2011-12-14T00:27:50+00:00

You need to show vulnerability to build deep comfort / rapport in my opinion. Showing that you can be hurt is important before a female can develop feelings for you (if that is what you want).

You could argue from the Rand point of view that this is because people subconsciously realize that emotions are the only form of non-logical control over most people besides force, and feel that they can't logically trust you to not cheat / stay with them, but you'll be "forced" to if your emotional circuitry is activated.

2011-12-14T08:52:01+00:00

great article man. some people just get it.

2011-12-14T07:36:40+00:00

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2011-12-14T21:05:35+00:00

So being vulnerable = willing to take risks = willing to lose = willing to win

indigObstacle · 2011-12-14T13:56:30+00:00

Really liked this article. Here are a few thoughts:

Outer vulnerability shows inner strength. Those who are willing to lower their guard and relax have the implicit belief that they can handle most situations they may face. Someone, on the other hand, who is always on edge, ready to fight, defenses up, does not have this inner belief. They are always in a defensive state because they feel deep down that they can't handle a lot of the possible situations. So they try to prevent these overwhelming situations by constantly being prepared.

Someone who is not willing to be vulnerable at times is actually very likely stuck in the fight or flight response, all the fucking time! Flight = avoiding approach, avoiding staying in set, avoiding plowing through difficult but constructive experiences. Fight = trying to always dominate others, never being okay with letting others get away with a joke about you, Fake alpha behavior (echoing the article). Now, fight or flight is always a response to a threat. So someone who is unwilling to let themselves be vulnerable at times is threatened - i.e. not quite sure of their inner strength to be able to meet possible external challenges.

Think about the word 'confidence'. I'm not a linguist, and this may be totally coincidental, but I did notice that the word 'confide' is in the word 'confidence'. That is to say, to be able to confide in others (and in yourself) is a big part of confidence. Trust, honestly, vulnerability, are all crucial ingredients to what constitutes confidence.

Title	The Fake Alpha Males - PostMasculine
Author	SexualHealing69
Upvotes	27
Comments	7
Date	December 14, 2011 12:00 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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